maramiakongginagawa

I was listening to "Surreal" by Justin De Dios and for some reason, it kinda ignite a spark in me to start writing again. 
          	
          	However, it might take quite some time to get back on track. 
          	
          	Hello though. How are you?

maramiakongginagawa

I have to reread the stories in my reading list once again to remove the stories with problematic characters and perceptions on what is right and wrong.  
          
          I have to admit that I was also intrigued and engulfed in those kinds of stories that romanticize abuse, rape, cheating, and the likes for the sake of feeling the 'kilig' once the heroine got together with their partner. 
          
          However, I have to say that that was the younger me. The version that was ignorant to a lot of malicious things molded by the environment and society I grew up in. However, as time passes by, I grow, I learn, and my perspective, beliefs, and principles are changing in response to what I now believe as right and wrong. 
          
          Yes, nobody is perfect. We make mistakes, we have flaws and imperfections but we have the choice to correct those mistakes, flaws, and imperfections to the best that we can to improve ourselves. The process might hurt our ego (as this is what I also felt when I first learned about my twisted beliefs and mindsets) and that feeling is valid. But our behavior in response to what we feel can be controlled. Our emotions are something that can be out of our control, but the behavior is not. Unless you are suffering from a sort of actual mental disease and not a pseudo mental disease that some people use to justify their actions. So as soon as we can, acknowledge our wrongdoings and twisted perspectives and start improving for the sake of ourselves and the betterment of the society (ya know? For the following generations). 
          
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storable4188

@maramiakongginagawa Yie!!! Go gurl! Bestie ko 'yan!
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maramiakongginagawa

So, be a mindful reader and don't just accept everything blindly. 
            
            There's a lot of things to point out, actually. If I do so, this will be a whole-day preach. I just hope that this can at least, open our eyes to become responsible users of this app and stakeholders of literature.
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maramiakongginagawa

For all the writers, especially amateurs, please do not let the euphoric feeling of having your stories known to take over your rationality. I've read some stories that have disclaimers warning the readers to be open-minded. If you want your readers to be open-minded, then you also have to be open-minded. Do not close your doors of opportunities to improve by discouraging some readers who comment on your stories to point out the flaws/mistakes they found. I hope you can take that as constructive criticisms that you use to improve. Remember that the moment you started feeling the passion to write, the moment you started your story or the moment you started to publish your story, you already became a writer. Being a writer does not end in writing stories. It extends to having responsibility for the impact your story has on the readers. You have the responsibility for the words you type, the plot you make, and the characters that you created. You are liable for the impact of your stories on your readers. You are an influencer. Be responsible and accountable. 
            
            For the readers, an author who has huge followers and readership does not make them exempted from being responsible and accountable for what they write. As a reader, we have the right to criticize especially when we see the misconceptions and flaws that can be improved. Do not, please for the love of God, defend a writer with broken belief on what is right and wrong and are close-minded. Just, please, don't. Do not excuse them by saying "Just read, don't mind the grammars," "If you just keep on pointing out the flaws, then don't read this. Go to the perfect stories." Because by doing so, we are enabling them to spread the misconceptions of reality that youth can read. Yes, yes, they are fiction. But the fiction genre does not mean that everything is not real. The characters, the perspectives, the settings, and the scenes can be real to some readers. The behaviors mirror reality. It can become their reality.
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maramiakongginagawa

This is the first time that I am unfollowing a certain writer due to his/her attitude. The first time that I had encounter some bad attitude with this author, I tried to ignore it even though it is not appropriate for me (well it is just based on my own principles). However, this time, I am not liking this author's approach to his/her readers anymore. I feel like for him/her to accept a constructive criticism, someone must put a compliment or point out an obvious error in his/her works. Pointing something you think is wrong, but not for this author, seems like enough reason to say something bad about that particular reader who is trying to clarify something that she thinks other readers would misunderstand (especially those who does not know the grounds for that field). Instead of appropriately telling her the flaw of her argument, this particular author just told this reader that she is not comprehending well and just laughing at his/her book. This author also asked the reader to just stop reading her books. 
          
          In my opinion (but not forcing this to anyone), the author should've talked to the reader nicely and decently point out how that reader made a mistake on her argument just like what that reader did. 
          
          Just a friendly reminder, being brave to return an argument to someone is good, but it has a limit. Being somewhat rude to your reader or to an author does not mean that you are "palaban" and deserved a blind support. We shall not blindly support someone with their actions just because this person is popular. We shall know how to identify whether their statements is an objective argument that leads to clarification of the pointer's mistake.