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So the topics of coverage lately has been focused on relationships, love life and in general communication. This particular column is designed to expose the initial warning, red flag signs of a cheater.

Many relationships end because someone cheats. Whether they assume their mate is the one and tries to repay them or if they just want to be first, so not to feel like the sucker in the end.

Cheating leads to many problems such as broken homes, murder, suicide, rape, lying, abuse, sexually transmitted disease/infection, unwanted childbirth/pregnancy,changes in health and decisions for life, as well as many other unspoken of downfalls.

Did You Even Know? For the record, cheating is a form of domestic abuse.

What brings a cheater to cheat? Well many cheaters believe they have valid excuses for their decisions, while others do it for fun or because they can easily get away with it. Cheaters tend to cheat with many things in life, even how to survive on a daily basis. Which may be the reason people cheat in the first place. They’ve experienced something negative in life and feel that in order to not go through it in the future, they'd rather try to outsmart the situation at hand.

People who cheat are unhappy with their life and the choices from some point in life that they've made. In most cases, the person being cheated on hasn't caused the cheater to do so. It's mainly from a cheater's own thoughts of what could hopefully make them happy and also stems from greed; wanting to have everything that seems to be available to that person.

Cheaters however always get cheated on and the more they cheat in retrospect, the more they'll get cheated on in life. Unfortunately, you don't have to BE a cheater to get cheated on, sometimes cheaters use others who are likely NOT to cheat as practice. It builds their esteem to further cheat and they usually get the benefits of a real relationship in the meanwhile. The only bad part is, it excites the cheater to cheat even more, with their mind focusing in on how to outsmart the situation to avoid certain consequences and outcomes the next time around.

Though cheaters have plenteous reasons to do the things they do and though most find their reasons to be valid, there are 5 distinctive signs that can alert you that someone is a "cheater".

In no way is this article accusing or predicting anyone's personal life experience. The sole purpose is to raise awareness so you can make good decisions about what relationship is best for you.

If you or someone you know is in a situation where a mate/partner Is cheating, just remember that you don't deserve to be mistreated by anyone for any reason.

Secretive

So, someone's being secretive... Is it they're ashamed to be with you? You're not allowed to be in places they happen to be? Or are you ready to consider some harsh reality? Your mate is cheating! Yes, there are some common situations of places a mate may not want their their mate to go to with them (ie. Work,school, etc.) , but what about if they choose to not tell you where they're going and what they really plan to be doing? A secretive partner is the top hint of a cheater, someone who's not fully committed to you. Remember a secret is something being held back because it could alter or ruin a situation.