My Thoughts

Compatibility

These columns are always so much fun and excitement for me. I have the opportunity to share good insight and inspiration to others. Relationships is actually one of the trickiest topic to cover because its success really is based on the two individuals involved. Do they want total contentment with one another or is that something they cannot see with one another?

In most cases, those who prefer a great relationship have healthy mindset about what they want, need and how to get what they want. Now  we covered uncompatibitly. How come I started off with that...mainly because I wanted to help others weed out the bad vibes first. Clear your mind of negativity to embrace the goodness.

It's time to focus on compatibilty. When someone is compatible it has a lot to do with having not so much things in common but a common tolerance for one another. It has a lot to do with being able to get along in all if not most circumstances. That could include finances, health, familial issues, work-related issues, social issues and any other type of unforeseen occurence that requires understanding and unconditional love. It is part of human nature that some care or show some form of concern.

Many people say they have unconditional love for their mate/partner and mean it with all sincerity. Some say it's unconditional under certain conditions, if you get my drift.:roll:

So let's get into it and though I am only listing ten, I'm certain that you may have others that you see as signs of compatibility. Some people refer to astrological compatibility... I am guilty of having looked into it to see if it's true... Well nope, I have found certain instances to match up as far as characteristics of a person but conversation alone led me astray. Far, far away.

This isn't about me of course, this is about everyone who needs a good compatible partner in their life, Who  doesn't want to be strung along or mislead into the wrong relationship when they're ready to give their all. Some people will not ever feel that way , perhaps because they've been hurt already and some just don't see themself to be valuable enough to have a good and healthy relationship.

Take a moment to clear your thoughts as best as you can of any negativity that would hinder your initiative to have a great and compatible partner in your life.

Let'z Be Real: Keeping these thoughts in mind.. Your compatible partner cannot be involved with someone else nor should your intent be to distract someone from taking their time to find the right compatible partner for them.

1) Mutual Attraction- This can by all means include physical, mental, general attraction and liking for one another.  Both persons should feel comfortable in any situation dressed up or down. Feeling good or not so good. The wanting to be with one another, it's all a sign. Not to be confused with infatuation where it is predominately a physical attraction,a forced beckon for attention; when you see, you lust and want no matter what the situation. Keep in mind we are talking healthy decisions that work out not only initially but in the long run as well.

2) Concern - Someone who is highly compatible is one who is concerned of your well-being. He/She doesn't want you to be without nor would they want to see you down and out. Their goal is to be there for you as best as possible. The feeling of concern doesn't have to be mushy and babying. It can be expressed in many other ways.

3) Plans For Future - The reason this is listed in the top 3 is because it is a sure sign of compatibility when your partner and you both plan to be in each others future endeavors. That includes dates with one another, handling home chores (cooking, cleaning, shopping, etc.) and even down time together. Making your mate part of your plans and being included in your mates plans shows that there is a solid determination to be together day in and day out. When you're compatible you don't ever feel they are crowding your space or overwhelming you with their presence. Okay maybe when it's time to sleep and you're used to stretching out all over the bed, but even in such a situation compatible partners can work it out and be understanding of such a small issue. Let's be real you know you'd rather your mate be next to you even if you are adjusting to it all.