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An Uncompatible Partner

Ever look at a couple and say how nice they look together? Sometimes the look and aura of their presence alone is so certain of a compatible relationship. In many, instances it is true.

However, there are just as many who force themselves into relationships in hopes of longevity, only to realize they are totally uncompatible.

Having a healthy relationship with a compatible partner can help your life in many ways. So don't spend another second with someone wasting away times that can be monumental with your most compatible partner.

10 Signs Of An Uncompatible Partner

-Frequent disagreements - that lead to high volume arguments, infidelity or distress

-Constant feelings of insecurities and lack of trust- which can lead to frequent disagreements

-Cheating or tolerating your mate's desire to have intimate relations with another or other people

-Lack of a healthy communication- which leads to misunderstandings or total inability to communicate

-Unwillingness to progress in the relationship

-A secretive relationship or non-existant one

-One of you only want one thing - money,sex,status,etc

-Lack of understanding and general concern

-Back and forth relationship

-Lack of interests

Frequent disagreements occur when other contributing factors are present and have not been resolved. It could lead to high volume arguments, infidelity or distress, which can make for an uncomfortable relationship. When you feel that you disagree you have to find a respectable way to address the topic. If you cannot come to a resolve then it may not be the best relationship to continue with.

Feelings can become pressured , both negative and positive. Feelings that are insecure or that lack trust are to be considered. If you have these feelings you need to understand that it is normal to experience a variety of feelings when under pressure. It is no excuse to ignore or tolerate what causes these feelings.

Someone may totally enjoy the opportunity that comes with a pressure-filled relationship. For someone that means a free pass to cheat or pursue other types of minimal relations. Sometimes it is intentional while in other instances it may happen because someone is allowing themselves to be weak in temptation.

Communication is important in all factors of life especially in regards to your personal relationship. Talking is not the only way to do so, your actions, your expressions and nowadays internet and technological devices help in the cause to communicate. Without taking time to communicate your relationship will have trouble being a healthy one. Sometimes communicating with the wrong person or people while in a relationship can cause distress on your would-be healthy relationship. Lack of communication is a sure sign of uncompatibility and leaves too many doors open for a relationship to fail completely.

A relationship that's healthy progresses. You know first comes love , then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage... Then again it doesn't have to be exactly like so but still in all progression is key. Who wants to be a girlfriend or boyfriend for 2 years or more and no talks of living together or having a family together? The purpose of a relationship is to become closer and more solid in that relationship. Even if the progress is slow and gradual it shows that there is a general interest of becoming a more solidified relationship.

But what about the relationship that doesn't exist... you know the call for a sex fling or friends with benefit type, where there is no connection for a future together? The relationship where Somebody thinks they're in love and no one ever confirmed that it was a real relationship. If you are not part of your so called partners ups and downs, ins and outs and are only around for temporary purposes you need to cut those loose strings. You can try to believe that it makes you happy but lonliness is written all over that lifestyle.

Now some get confused because you get a partner that calls you for sex and/or money and loves having you around to show off and for other seemingly purposeful reasons, but at the top of the day and end of their night are you the one in their life? Most likely not, you're a sidedish whether a male or female and are not even a beneficial factor in your partners life. It's called usery and though it might make you feel like it could boost your chance... you are so fooling yourself. Noone who is totally interested would take advantage of someone they care for and want a future with.

And what about you? How do you do today? How is everything? Do you need anything , is there anything I can do? If you don't have a special one in your life caring about your well-being then you can't be for each other. It's unnatural to not be able to show caring feelings when you actually care. Though some people are horrible actors/actresses when it comes to taking advantage of people, a real sincere one would be sincere in every way. Your well-being ought to be as important as their own, so if they don't exhibit true concern you need to certainly give that person the boot. The same goes for you if you don't care about how your partner feels or is doing you aren't quite cut out for that person. Not to be mixed up with a person going through something where they just can't get themself to show they care at the moment, you have to understand that sometimes losses (family, job,home,car,etc.) can lead to depression and feelings that most would rather guard. You have to be compatible with your partner to know how to even deal with it.

One of the most unhealthy things to do in a relationship is to go back and forth. Break up go do your thing then get back and keep it going. It is unhealthy mentally, physically and morally as well. Now if you are breaking up because you have issues that you need to resolve then it makes sense that communication is in order and would help greatly. However, if you just want to have the benefit of more than one relationship then you need to be single and get it together. It is not normal to string a person along, that is abuse and can lead to other complications in your life.

Lastly, just as important as feeling, communication, trust and a general wanting of progression will help the relationship prove to be compaitble, so will having interest in your partners interests. It's nothing wrong with not liking sports or soap operas if your partner does, but if it really bothers you then you may not be made for one another. A healthy relationship requires support and dedication to what you and your partner enjoy the most. Would you want to cut out an important part of your life because someone you like doesn't like it. Not really, so not saying fake or force yourself, like many do. That's not a sacrifice, that's suffering. Sacrificing is saying okay I will watch a sportsgame with you, if you'll watch a soap opera with me. It is saying okay I am okay with not going here with my friends to go be present at your event. You shouldn't ever budge to do what you really aren't comfortable doing. That includes hobbies, interests and sexual pleasures as well.