Questions Young People Ask By Bruce & Carol Britten

Letters from Young People

Nathan: My cousin make three girls pregnant. But in each case he denied it saying, "I never had sex with her."
for two years I've been encouraging him to repent and accept Christ. Today he decide to do it. We had a great time praying together. Then he told me, "Yes, It's true.. I made those girls pregnant."
I said, "You must confess this, and begin helping them financially."
He asked, "Why should I give money to those girls and their kids? All of that happened before I repented. Doesn't God forgive and forget?
How can I show him that he must help them?

Dear Nathan,
Here are two good verses:

When someone does any od the sins that men or woman do, he must confess his sin. Then he must pay back the person he has sinned against, and he must give that person an additional twenty percent. (From Numbers 5:6-7)

God forget our sins, but God does not forget the needs of mothers and children.
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Sarah: I'm age 16. Every time I look in a mirror, I hate myself. My face has pimples, and my breast are too big. I'm afraid my breast will grow even bigger, but I don't want big breast like my mother. What can I do?

Dear Sarah,

How many young people hate themselves every time they look in the mirror? The answer is: Most of them! Yes most teenagers think, "My skin is not amooth," or "I'm too fast," pr My skin is too white," or "too dark".

Magazines show beautiful ladies who says, "Pimples are ugly. By our creams and lotions!,"

The campany who manufacture creams and lotions want yping people to feel ugly. Yes, they try tp make young people think, "I must buy things to make me beautiful!"

So, Sarah, you arw not alone. Nearly all young people spend time feeling sad because they think," Im ugly."

Here is our advice:

1) Spend a little time improving yhe way you look.
a) Pimples: Wash your face twice each day with soap and warm water. Yes. Ordenary soap will help as much as any cream and lotion. However, we can't promise that washing with soap daily will remove every pimple. Many young people have pimples. But pimples usually disappear by age 25.

b)Big breasts: If your whole body is ovwr weight, you can slim by eating right and getting exercise (such as long walk and hard work).

If your are not overweight but ypur breast are big there is no way to make them smalller. So why worry?

2) Get busy working for God.
As you serve God in various ways, you will find that you have certain abilities-perhaps the ability to tell Bible stories to children, or the ability to organize a hospital-witnessing team. While you and the other young people are working together, you will feel the joy of helping people, and all of you will realise that your "ugly" points don't really matter that much.
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Rachel: I am nearly 16. Every day I worry because I have not started menstruating. And my breast are still small. Will I ever develop?

Dear Rachel,

Yes, you will. Don't worry. Some girls start developing at age 10, others develop at age 17. And some boys begin to develop at 11; others not until 19.
It doesn't matter whether a person begin early at age 10 or 17 or 19. Those who happen o begin early have no advantage over those who begin later.
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Luke: Now that I'm age 15, I find myself looking at girls and thinking, "How beautiful... her legs... her body!" Why do I have such thought? Am I still a Christian?

Dear Luke,

Boys under age 10 have little interest in girls. But during their teenage years, all boys find thay, "My mind wants to think about girls!"

Why does thay happen? Because God put a pituitary gland in your head. During the first 9 years of your life, the pituitary gland does nothing. Then, somewhere between ages 10 to 19,this gland begins sending hormones to all parts of your body. The hormones tell your body, "It's time to begin changing into a man. You've been a boy long enough."

Then hair start growing under your arms and near your sex organ. Your voice grows deep, and your muscles grow strong--like those of a man.

A girl's pituitary glans sends out different hormones that start her changing into a lady. Because of the hormones, she start menstruating, her hips grow wide, and her breast develop.

Now listen, Luke. Hormones reach not only the body, but also the mind. That is why boys of your age begin thinking about girls (and girls begin thinking abou boys).

When you reach age 17, your interest about girls will be stronger than it is now. And at 19, it will be even stronger!
Why? Because during next few years
Your pituitary gland will increase hormones production.

You see, God's plans is this: As a boy grows into a man, his interest in girls should grow... and grow... until he reaches the point where he desires to be a loving husband to a certain lady.

Satan tries to decieve boys of your age. He whisper to them, "Boy, you think aboit girls too much. GOD is angry with you. You are no longer a Christian. A dirty boy like you shoukd not attend chuch.

Luke don't listen to Satan. JUst do two things:

¹Tell yourself, "During the years when I'm changing from a boy to a man, my interest with girls grow. That is God's plan. So I must realise that God must not angry with me. I'm still a Christian.

"When thought of havong sex with a girl enyers my mind, I will. Ask God for help, I will get busy doing some work so that my mind won't have time to continue thinking such things. I don't want to sin with girls, or even think about doing such sin."

²Tell God, "Although my hormones give me strong desires, I want to obey you by never having sex with anyone until the day I marry. Then I want to have sex with my wife only!"