The Rambs

Platonic Soulmates

Everybody knows the idea of soulmates, another person you share your soul with and who you're destined to be with. Personally, I believe soulmates exist but I don't think they're inherently a romantic thing. You can have someone who you just instantly click with, or someone who just compliments your own personality, even someone who's just your other half but not in a romantic way; all of these I would call platonic soulmates. In fictional worlds where a soulmate concept is used, the characters always find each other, whether it's some type of magic or soulmate finding system, or forging an 'artificial' soulmate bond. So why can't the same be true of real life? Whether or not a person believes in soulmates, most people meet someone in their life who they could call a soulmate or who have an intensely intimate bond, whether platonically or romantically.

Personally, I believe I've met someone who is a strong contender for a platonic soulmate, and someone who knows both of us has said we're perfect for each other in a platonic way. This person has a very similar outlook on life, type of humor, and even music taste to myself. It may not seem like a lot of items in that list but we get along well and there's just a 'click' in the relationship we have. The only drawback is the fact that I know the relationship we have is platonic, and should stay that way, but I've had surprisingly few crushes so my feelings toward this person are a bit complicated. I very much like this person and we 'click', but I also admire their personality and perspective on things, so it's an odd emotion on my side of wondering whether I have some demented crush on someone who's not in my league or do I just genuinely like them in an intensely platonic way the way you may like a best friend. Weird emotional crisis aside, I know they're going to be leaving soon, and it's likely I won't ever see them again, so it doesn't matter how I feel toward them coz they won't be staying in my life. I'll still be sad to see them go, so I'd like to get my emotions in order so that there's a nice lil bow on my feelings.

Personal experiences aside, I don't particularly believe in destined soulmates, especially in a romantic sense, but platonic soulmates I'm totally behind. Not only are platonic soulmates more likely to happen, it's a pretty easy bond to make with a person and it's very easy to say you belong with someone or at their side when you just have a 'click'. When it comes to relationships, of any kind, they can be intensely intimate and, really, I just believe that mutually intense intimacy and feelings can be called a soulmate bond. It doesn't matter if those feelings and type of intimacy are sexual/romantic or strictly platonic, if the intensity is there I think it can be a very strong contender for soulmates.