In My Favorite Chair

I Am Happy For Them but...

- They don't deserve it
- It should have been me
- Look at me, what have I achieved?

On a very good day for you, your phone buzzes, it's your friend and you're wondering what he has to tell you. You pick up your phone and place it on your left ear.

"Oh hi," you say, presumably chuckling.

Your friend is excited to announce that he just got himself a new house. You seem happy for him, you even try to force a joyful tear. However, in your heart, you don't feel alright. You just wished that you didn't have to hear that good news. You drop your phone next to the brown table behind you, you start feeling a bit uneasy, and it unexpectedly turns out that you're not genuinely happy for your friend.

Have you ever felt this way? Maybe it could be news of a friend's wedding, or a well-paid job they got, and admission into the University or any other successes of them and you're not completely happy?
I think we all might have felt this way. Is it normal? Yes, it is because we are imperfect humans and our actions are mostly flawed. Though, what is abnormal is dwelling on such emotions. While you can't avoid making mistakes, you can control how you react to them

They Don't Deserve It

Of course, they do! Success is relative, and everyone deserves it and also happiness. Individually, we are in pursuit of achievements. Noticing that other people seem to be reaching their goals much earlier than expected may result in feelings of despair. You might begin to have thoughts of being the actual person entitled to their victory. Maybe because you feel that you put in much more effort than them or you are conscious of the qualities that you possess, which seem not to have made headway for you.
There's no denying that it can be unbearable when we see someone else thriving in areas of their lives that you are consistently struggling to fulfill. Regardless, expressing real happiness for other people's success will not only make you happy but give you the strength to keep on moving with the hope of succeeding as well.

It Should Have Been Me

It is not about you! Focusing on the situation and not involving yourself breathes positivity. Expressing happiness for other people's winning shouldn't be accompanied by "buts and butter"
Excessive dwelling on the thoughts of others not having the right to progress because you probably view them as unworthy depicts pride and spawns hatred, and jealousy, and can even lead to depression.
Believing that everyone has "their time" pushes you to stop thinking particularly about yourself but also about others.
In the end, it's difficult to understand what others go through to succeed.
Rather than looking down on people's success because you're not in their shoes, channel your efforts to improve yourself.
Also, putting up a make-believe of joy about someone's success is usually seen for just what it is- a false front! don't be happy with the wrong motives, happiness should come sincerely from your heart.

Look At Me, What Have I Achieved?

Yes, looking at yourself in a broken mirror will give you a distorted view of yourself. The things you say to yourself and how you view yourself can affect the way others view you and even treat you.
Don't tell yourself such things as 'I always fail' or 'I am not good enough and 'I never do anything right.' Such overstatements only keep you down with no reason to keep your head up. And placing so much emphasis on those feelings of worthlessness will make you give in to comparison.
Low self-esteem results when you compare your weaknesses with another person's strengths. Acknowledging your drawbacks and appreciating your vigor will keep you sane, fulfilled, and contented.

If you feel that you haven't achieved anything, aspects of life that you might probably look at as little like talking to your loved ones, laughing heartily, watching the sunset, e.t.c, and most importantly being alive are great accomplishments.

Finally, how to develop a true joy for others' triumphs begins with yourself. So, here are some tips!

- Change the way you talk to yourself.
- Identify areas in your life that you need to change.
- Address what is holding you back from being the better version of yourself and work on it with confidence.
- Congratulate others even when it might be tough to do and see how happy you will be.
- Be you.

Happiness is therapeutic, your sense of well-being, therefore, SOARS when you are happy for others, always remember that.