Once when my father was being especially horrible to me, I rode my bike as far from the house as I could (which wasn't far to be honest; I'm really out of shape). So I rode to this little thrift store and hid my bike around the back, so nobody would steal it. I walked back around to the front of the store, and there was a note on the door that said, "The owner is in New York, because her mother has passed on to Heaven." So I turned around, got my bike, and was about to leave. A lady had just pulled into the parking lot, and she asked if I needed anything. That just completely broke me and I asked this lady, a total stranger, for a hugging. She let me sob on her shoulder, and she unlocked the store (she was the owner, apparently) and she let me tell her all about my father. Now, here's where the rant comes in:
She kept asking me if my father had sexually abused me, and since I figured it would be a bad idea to tell the truth, I told her "no." From then on, she started acting like verbal abuse is no big deal, and started talking to me about how I should "find it in [my] heart to forgive him."
I like how she was ready to go to World War fucking Three if she knew about sexual abuse, but as soon as she thinks it's limited only to verbal abuse, it's okay.
So, certain kinds of abuse are forgivable, but others aren't? Should I embrace and accept the man who has made my life miserable?
I understand that some people think verbal abuse is no big deal; sticks and stones, right?
WRONG
There have been times where I wish my father would just beat the shit out of me, so I could finally have a "valid" reason to get away from him.
Anyway, the point is this: VERBAL ABUSE IS A LEGITIMATE FORM OF ABUSE, AND IT CAN NOT JUST BE BRUSHED OFF.
