Fatima Story

Communication is key

They walk in the therapist office

Therapist: good afternoon Mr. Taylor how are you.

Zac: I'm doin ok, this is my fian...ummm my girl...umm this is Fatima the mother of my child.

Fatima looks at him she didn't know how to respond because she doesn't even know what they are at the moment.

Therapist: hi Fatima how are you? I've heard so much about you.

Fatima: hi, I'm ok I guess. Lookin a little nervous

Therapist: so Zac what made you bring Fatima wit you today?

Zac: well I been tellin you were in a weird place right now and we haven't been able to communicate wit each other causing us to be distant and the last thing I need is to loose her because I don't know how to communicate my feelings.

Therapist: Fatima how do you feel? Why did you want to come?

Fatima: I feel like we haven't been on the same page for a while. I feel like for someone who claims to love me it's too easy for him to walk away from me. I wanted to come because I want to save us. Starts crying I can't loose him I need him now more than ever.

She's never been this vulnerable wit Zac and he's noticing how hard it is for her to open up.

Zac: can we jus use this session to talk to each other and be completely honest then you talk to us at the end after hearing both sides? He asked the therapist

Therapist: I think that's a great idea why don't you start by tellin her everything you told me. And Fatima I jus want you to listen and take it all in before I have you do the same thing, ok ?

Fatima nods her head, Zac turns to Fatima and grabs her hands.

Zac: baby I don't trust you. I don't trust that your over your ex and I don't trust you wit my heart. You play too many games and you don't understand me. I feel like we started this entire relationship wrong. You liked me more when I was cheating on my girl wit you but when you actually became my girl you didn't show me the same love and attention. The real reason I left for a month is because I watched you be more vulnerable wit a man in 5 min then you've ever been in our whole relationship. He still has your heart in some way and I don't want it if I can't have the whole thing. I gave up everything to be in this relationship Karen doesn't have any piece of me. There is nothin she could ever say to make me breakdown because I no longer love her. You still love Ian which is why you can't fully commit to me. The only time you communicate your wants and needs is when we're having sex. We should be more open at this point in our relationship I jus want to fix whatever is stopping us.

Fatima listening tryin not to get mad "oh this nigga took it there? Ok he wants honesty I'll give it to him."

Therapist: Fatima are you ready?

Fatima: takes a deep breath....yeah I'm ready. For starters yes I'm still in love wit Ian and sometimes I wonder how shit would've been but that doesn't take away from you. Zac you're selfish as fuck you up and disappear everytime something doesn't go your way and then you think poppin up givin me dick will fix everything. You don't know how to communicate and I feel like our whole relationship is based off lust! We love fuckin but do we actually love each other? We don't know shit about each other but you want to rush and get married jus like you wanted to rush and have this baby which let be honest you only wanted me to have to fill that void Karen left in you wit Zola. I started off as your side bitch which was more fun and much less stress. You bein quick to run "home" after seeing me wit Ian let's me know your not over her either. You don't trust me because you don't trust yourself Zac. I know how to be in a relationship and be faithful but you don't. Look how easy you were to fuck. I'm not 100% open wit you because at any moment another me can come along and then what you're gone up and leave? Let's be honest you're not hard to fuck and you're easy to steal I should know.

The therapist is looking shocked their relationship is more damaged then any of them realized. Zac and Fatima jus sat and stared at each other.

Therapist: Normally after a conversation like that I would say the relationship was too damaged beyond repair but I noticed that after everything both of you said not once did y'all let go of each other's hands. That tells me that the love is real y'all jus need to work on something's and towards something's. I want y'all to look at each other and tell the other one what you need from them to make this work and also say what you want to happen wit the relationship in general. Zac since you have the hardest time communicating I want you to go first it'll mean more to her knowing it came from your heart and your not just piggy backing off of her words.

Zac: I want you to be my wife I want us to grow from this and never enter this space again. In order to do that I need you to get closure from your ex whatever that looks like to you. But I need for your whole heart to be in this before we move forward. I need you to be sure this is what you want and most importantly I need you to trust me wit all of you. I need you to not give up on me. I need you to trust that there's nobody else. I need you to understand that I love you wit every part of me and knowing I hurt you hurts me so I need you to know that I'm willing to do whatever it takes to heal any part of you that I broke.

Fatima: I want you to be my husband, I want us under the same roof and us to raise our daughter in a loving home. I need you to not shut me out. I need you to communicate wit me no matter what it is that's bothering you. I need you to trust me when I say I don't need closure and that I'm 100% committed to us. I need you to love me whole heartedly and to stop taking these big steps jus to revert back to your old ways. I need you to understand that your actions are making you loose me. I need us to fix this together. I need permanent change because this is the last time I'm willing to try again. I need you to know that your the only man wit my heart and I'm in love wit you now more than ever before.

Therapist: I want you all to spend sometime together without sex for a few days and I want y'all to talk about your future. I find talkin without the intention to have sex makes it easier to communicate effectively. Do this for at least a week then make an appointment to come see me again.

Zac: thank you doc.

They walk back to the car and Zac grabs Fatima hand. Before he opens her door he turns her towards him and kisses her passionately. "I love you so much baby thank you for fighting wit me for us."

They drive to Fatima's house and Zac walks her to the door.

Zac: I'll be over tomorrow to spend time wit you. Call me if you need anything before then.

Fatima: ok we're tryin this communication thing right?

Zac: yeah

Fatima: Zac I want you here not in the same bed jus yet because I'm not strong enough to not have sex but I want you here in the house wit me.

Zac: ok baby I'll go grab some stuff and come stay a few nights wit you.

Fatima: No you're not gettin it *takes a deep breath* I'm ready for us to move in together I want you here permanently.

Zac: really are you sure you're ready?

Fatima: yes, we both know we want this we jus have alot of work to do but I'm sure about this I promise.

Zac: ok how about I spend this week with you and we go from there. One day at a time?

Fatima: smiles at him...ok one day at a time.