Shame; is a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior.
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How do you know something is wrong or foolish?
The answer is...
You don't, you don't know when something is right, wrong or foolish. Truth is no one knows, we just assume. We assume that being fat is wrong, that we should be embarrassed by our appearance. We assume that being homosexual is wrong, that that's something that belongs to the devil. We assume that being black is wrong, that just because of the color of our skin we are not equals.
The same with women, men think that just because you're more fragile than they are that means they're stronger, that they can boss you around, hit you, call you sluts and whores without really knowing the meaning of those words. Without really knowing that those words hurt.
Society shames us.
Our family shames us.
Our friends shame us.
Shame is nothing but a name that we put to a feeling, but feelings can change over time. Shame can turn into love for yourself, into respect for others, into forgiveness for their "wrong doings".
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Honor reminds you of what you've done in your life, how you got to where you are. You should feel honored that God or Buddha or Allah or whoever, gave you that body because it was a gift from him. You should feel honored for the rich chocolate skin you have. You should feel honored to have the gift of loving someone that's your same gender.
Honor; a privilege.
