5 Ways To Healing: How I Made It Out

Rejection

Rejection, a word most of us fear. The feeling of having to deal with anything alone is unexplainable. The word "rejection" in your healing process isn't the usual one. This time it means having to face your prayers in the midst of your healing.

Often times we always pray the prayer of removal when we're going through. You know, the one where we say "God whatever is not for me please remove it." But, we don't think about the consequences of that prayer. We ask God to remove things or people but what happens when he does it? What happens when we start losing friends? Or what about losing the job we've been working over five plus years?

This is called Rejection. In order to heal, you have to be told no. You have to be snatched away from the things you couldn't see hindering your growth. So, when you're trying to hang out with "your" usual friends and it seems like they're ignoring you. That's Gods' way of rejecting more hurt. Sometimes if you're not careful you'll force yourself into something that's going to push you further away from your healing.

I like to always include incidents of my own to help the person better understand how important it is to heal. Also, to show that you're not alone! No one persons healing looks like the other. Every one has their own healing process to deal with. However, we all have the same end goal in mind. To heal!

Back to letting you in on my "rejection" story. I decided one day that enough was enough. I was tired of being angry all the time, I was tired of crying, I was tired of feeling a void when it came to certain things. So, I prayed the prayer I mentioned earlier. Slowly, but surely I started to see people walk out my life. I was friends with this woman for over ten years. If not longer than that. Suddenly, her trauma turned into a trigger for me.

I ended up going into depression. But, at the time it was what I called; light depression. Instead of me paying attention to the signs, I kept pushing myself to engage. One day, I let my phone get cut off. I didn't feel the urge to pay my bill. When I did, I didn't give her my new number. We eventually went months without talking. I started to feel a breeze, suddenly I wasn't sad anymore. There wasn't any hatred towards her nor, was the love lost. But, that was Gods' way of sending rejection.

Before ending this chapter, I want to leave you with tips on how to make it through your rejection process without losing your mind. First, always remember the prayer of releasing any negative energy around you may come with losing friends. Just remember God hears and sees things we don't. If he felt that the individual needed to be removed it's because it was necessary for your growth.

Secondly, breathe! Breathe through your rejection. You asked God for protection and suddenly nothing feels the same. Just remember, putting clean clothes on a filthy body doesn't mean you're clean. The change comes when both the body and clothes are clean.

Thirdly, let it go. You can't move forward looking back. Rejection in healing isn't bad. It's only to protect you from digging deeper and getting further away from healing. The things of the past weren't helping your future so, that's why they were left there.

Sometimes we get so blinded by how "we" want people to be. And how "we" want things to go. That we ignore what God wants. That's when rejection comes into play. Ignoring the answers God gives us because we don't like them. You can make it through this stage of healing. If you're reading this and already began this process in your healing, I pray this helps you better understand it.