5 Ways To Healing: How I Made It Out

Fear

Instantly this word itself gives me chills. When I think of "fearing" something it makes me think of a haunted house or the reaction to losing my parents. But, in healing that's not the case. Fear comes in once you've gotten through rejection and acceptance.

A lot of people don't like to fully heal because they fear losing everyone. In the moment you say, "God I don't care who you remove I just want to be happy." But, what about after that moment is over and you aren't upset? Will you still be okay being alone then? I'll give you a moment to ponder on that thought.

Sometimes, God will separate us from all things and everyone just so we can properly be at peace. Some separation is momentarily and then there are those that are permanent. Either way, it's a fearful thing.

I grew up in a two parent home, with three other siblings. At one point in time, my auntie and five cousins lived with me as well. So, the thought of being alone was frightening! I couldn't phantom it at all. Me? Alone? No way!

It was so bad that I wouldn't even take a minute away from my children. I'd be up to my elbows with frustration but because I had a fear of being alone, I'd suck it up and deal with it. There was no way anyone was leaving me.

I had a "friend" that did things I didn't like at all. Not necessarily to me but, to other people. Now, me being the good; kindhearted individual I am it really bothered me. But, because I feared losing them I allowed it to go on for quite some time. I didn't say anything at all. Until one day, it was me in the situation. Suddenly, that fear was gone! I no longer cared about them walking out my life.

To those of you that are reading this and don't mind being alone, this part of your healing will be a piece of cake. But, to the others that struggle like I did after reading this you'll be like the other cake walkers and myself. It'll all make sense in the end, ask me how I know.

Here are some questions God asked me when I told him I feared the alone part in my healing. How many times have you've been put in a dangerous situation and they acted as if it wasn't that serious? How many times have they left you out of their plans because they didn't think you'd want to do what they were doing? Or be around certain people? How many times did they have a reason as to why they couldn't show up to your kids parties? Or show up to celebrate a major accomplishment for you? If the number is greater that 0, you my friend have already mastered being alone.

Fear in this scenario isn't a fear of bugs or gaining too much body weight. Fear in this scenario is "friends" or "family" annoying you like bugs and adding on dead weight. The fear of facing the fact it's always been you and only you that's willing to avoid dead weight and add on more positivity. So, my question to you is are you still walking in fear?

Here's some tips on how to survive fear. First, acknowledge the situation at hand. Get a clear over standing as to why it's important to let it all go. Until you over-stand what's holding your healing, you'll always be under it trying to stand.

Secondly, always result back to Gods' questions when you want to pick up that phone and call or text that person. Always remember that if the reality you faced was bad, the situation is bad. Put the phone down!

Thirdly, find something positive to occupy your time. For me it turned out to be cooking, now I own a catering company. Who knows the possibilities that'll open up for you once you find that new positive. Endeavors are endless once you activate your faith and deactivate your fear.

Fear can either take you by force or you could get rid of it by choice. What will it be?