5 Ways To Healing: How I Made It Out

Acceptance

Oh man! The second hardest thing aside from rejection, is acceptance. And no, I'm not talking about accepting anything that's thrown at you. Nor am I talking about accepting a job offer with higher pay. I am talking about accepting your part you played in stalling your healing.

Previously, we talked about praying the prayer of negative relationships being removed. Now, I'm going to tell you how accepting your part you played in some of those situations. That's right, you're reading this correctly. You play a major part in stalling your healing. Accepting the fact that you are the reason for some of the holes in your life are left opened can be very difficult. It could also be emotional.

How many times have you known a situation was going to end badly yet, you still entertained it? How many times have you went back to the very thing God brought you out of? You see a person with a willing and able heart will always see the good. But, they'll always ignore the truth. In doing so, you'll never be able to accept the fact that you're holding your breakthrough right in the palm of your hand.

Acceptance comes in many forms. Emotionally you'll be hurt because what was once so innocent and pure stings. Financially you'll be mad because you'll start to realize how much you've invested into the situation. Mentally you'll be drained because you'll start to think about all the times things didn't add up and you still allowed it to take place. And lastly, spiritually you'll seek Gods forgiveness because time after time he's shown you but, you chose not to believe.

There was an individual I had in my life that I was so hard up on seeing the good in. No matter how many times this person showed me the truth I wanted to believe that because they were going through it gave them lead way to handle me the way they did. Until one day we were having a conversation and I asked the individual to come and see me. They said "if you give me $25 I'll come." It was then that I knew I had been digging the hole to burry my healing this whole time.

I began to cry, (emotional) and it hurt so bad because I felt used. Then, I thought about how much I've invested financially, I went back through our text messages and realized how much money I had sent out. And how much they always had excuses as to why they could never send to me. (Financial) Then I started thinking, thinking about things they've said to me that all of a sudden now made absolutely no sense. I got a headache and started to feel nauseous just replaying so many conversations. (Mental) Lastly, (Spiritual) I went to God asking for his mercy and forgiveness for ignoring all the signs. I asked that if he'd get me out this one last time and I promised I wouldn't go back. I never went back.

Here are some tips to help you get through your acceptance. First, don't blame yourself. You were only doing what you felt was right. You were putting the needs of others before you and hadn't realized while they were healing, you were hurting.

Secondly, forgive yourself. It's okay to be that beautiful soul. But, don't forget in order to properly love you must first heal. Forgive yourself wholeheartedly for not realizing. It's going to be okay.

Thirdly, don't expect you out of others. Even those that have the same vision of greatness as you are different. Because, not one story is the same as the next. God created us all equal but, he also wrote our stories differently.

Acceptance is acknowledging the truth about you prolonging your healing. Stop and think when's the last time someone stretched themselves thin to satisfy or accompany you and your needs.