Why would he want to be more than friends if he already has everything he could need?
This morning I realized something.... why would he want to be more than friends when I already give him everything that he would want? I was thinking about how I would be a great girlfriend for him because I'd be supportive, I care about him and all of these things. I thought of all of these great reasons why I would be a great girlfriend - sort of hyping myself up - and I was wondering why he isn't interested in me in this way even though I would be an amazing girlfriend from him.
Then it hit me.
I already do all of those things for him as a friend, so why would he need to take things the extra step? I think, and I could be wrong, the extra step would be him being attracted to me in a romantic way. He should already see all of those things that I do for him, and we are friends. He doesn't have to date me to receive those things, I just give it to him. So if I already do them, why should he date me? What do I have to offer in a romantic partnership setting? I don't know the answer to that.
In order for a romantic relationship to develop, he would need to develop romantic feelings for me or a physical attraction to me, and I don't think that's possible. I'm not the type of girl that people feel that way about. It's how it is. I'm a great friend, but horrible on the physical attraction scale. I've finally figured it out. This is why I've never had a boyfriend - I offer all of the great things about being a girlfriend as a friend that people don't need to take the actual step of being a girlfriend. It saves them the trouble.
Why would he need to date me, when he can get everything he needs as a friend?
"I don't want to ruin what we have as friends."
No.
Not true.
What you actually meant was "I'm getting everything I need from you right now as friends and I don't want you in a romantic way."
Which fucking sucks.
Maybe I should stop being so awesome of a friend and see what happens.
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