I think most people just throw around the term "romanticizing life" without really knowing what it means. So, in this book, I'm going to show you what it is and give you tips to achieve it.
It will also encourages you to slow down, live with intenti...
Toxic people, meaning: "A toxic person is anyone whose behavior adds negativity and upset to your life.As we saw in the last chapter, the feeling of being overwhelmed can be caused by too much work (pressure) and by toxic people. When we look at the definition, there's one word in particular that can catch our attention: "negativity," which is the complete opposite of what we want to romanticize in our lives. Toxic people don't always make us angry, they make us sad, they make us feel like shit. Sometimes it's the way they act, the way they talk to you, the way they treat you... I made you a little diagram:
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Now you're gonna tell me "How do I recognize toxic people?"
- Erratic behavior: You never know what they're going to do, they're inconsistent.
- They ALWAYS need your attention: their ego is so big.
- Always some damn drama: they attract drama, literally, wherever they go, it follows them!
-No boundaries: Normal relationships are based on mutual respect for each other's beliefs and boundaries.
- They manipulate you to get what they want: this is perhaps the most important sign!
- They are always judgmental: You are afraid to express your opinion, what you do, how you do it... You are afraid of being judged by this person.
- Control freaks: Some people are control freaks, but not toxic, so it's not a main sign, but if they want to control YOU, that's a big one...
- They're hypocrites: this usually goes with manipulation.
These are phrases toxic people say:
"It's no big deal" or "You'll get over it." - This can mean, "Shut up, it's not interesting, I have much more interesting things to tell you.
"You always ... " or "You never... "Told you! Judgmental.
You're doing it wrong. Why can't you do it my way?" - Big ego and judgmental.
"I'm done." - Kinda classic, and 2 minutes later they come back...
"You have no choice" - You always have a choice, sometimes they say that to make you choose what they want you to choose.
"It's not hard" - It's a way to show off, "How come you can't do it? It's so easy!"
"That reminds me..." - They say this so that you stop talking and they can talk about themselves.
"Someone had to tell you..." - That someone is them!
"I know how you feel" - No, they don't!
Now you have the basics!
The impact it has on you
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In the next chapter, we'll see how to deal with them, what causes these impacts, how to overcome them, and work on yourself!
