Understanding guys

Friend zoned

Before you go off at me that the friend zone doesn't exist and I shouldn't penalise girls for not wanting to date me...just read what I have to say.

I have a friend, she is beautiful, charming, incredible, has the best laugh, eyes everything and I think I have fallen hard enough for her to never want to see anyone else. But because I don't think she likes me that way, I haven't said anything to her. That's probably the worst thing I have ever done because now she has found someone and seeing her with him...ow

I would be able to deal with her dating other people but he, he is just so perfect, I look at him and I see that it would never work with me and her because he is was she deserves, he isn't me. But it's also hard because she told me something, I don't think she remembers saying it or whether it was just a drunk laugh, but she said she had loved me. The past tense of that is the hardest part because I knew that i'd missed my chance, I could have had the most amazing girl in the world and I blew it.

So girls, even if a guy doesn't ask you out, doesn't mean we don't feel anything for you. What's so wrong with asking the guy you like on a date? If a girl did that to me i'd probably say yes right on the stop because she is brave enough to know that we are living in the 21st century. So if you are fawning over a guy who doesn't even know you exist, or your best friend for several years, do it! What have you got to lose?

And guy, ASK THE GIRL YOU LIKE OUT! Not for nudes or how big her bra size is. Ask her about her favourite quotes, why she has that scar right above her eyebrow, what her best memory is, what her worst memory is. Because trust me every girl is beautiful, every girl can make you lose your mind if you just give them the chance.

I realise that I shouldn't have said "What have you got to lose?" because honestly when its a friendship you do have a lot to lose. I think about what would have happened if I had asked my friend out and it scares me of all the horrible ways it could have ended, mainly in me losing her. But my guy friend admitted to liking me and although i'm straight, I didn't flip out at him, I simply told him that he deserved better than me and guess what, I didn't change how I acted around him. Nothing changed for us and now he's happy with an amazing guy and they're adorable together.

My point is kind of that the friend zone saved me from losing a friend but it also didn't give me a chance to see an alternate ending.

I hope this helps some of you

Stay fearless cuties