G.E.M (When Cultures Clash: Nandi's marriage)

Chapter 5:Church ladies

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I woke tired, I kept tossing turning all night thinking about what my dad said ... shouldn't they be happy that their daughter is finally getting married ...ugh this is harder than it needs to be honestly... 

I knew my dad wouldn't be happy but my mom too... I got cut off from my train of thoughts by a knock at door.

''Nandi wake up. we have to go to church .... and if you don't get up now you know mom will overreact '' my sister called from the other side of the door.

ughhhh.... guess i have to get up now uh...

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i used to love church but now i hated it. all the eyes they were giving me were weird i get it's been a year of them not seeing me but come on ... at this point my anxiety was getting out of control ..

I felt like like running away and hiding ... i really wish Jason was here.  he was the only person i know who can help with my social anxiety.

 church went well i guess except for all the stares the church ladies kept giving me ...

as we walked in silence Mamsonto called my mother from behind us. 

Just what i needed ... a church lady that can't seem to mind her own business.

'' Hau, Mangwane , why didn't you tell me that your daughter is back from the big city of gold.'' she said... loudly as if we weren't standing right next to her .

what the effing fuck was wrong with this woman...

I know im being rude but I can't really help myself.. I really hate people like her people who can't seem to mind their own business  they know all about whats happening in another persons life.. this woman would probably tell you when was the last time her neigbours had sex ... and I'm literally not joking.

My mom turned faking a smile... and she's supposed to be the queen and she herself can't stand the people she should lead...

"Mamsonto ,unjani mfazi" she said still fake smiling might I add.

"Ngiphilile ... hau look how much youve grown ntombi. last time i saw you ,you were still a small baby. mhmm scared of gong to the river all alone . hai cha ukhulile." she said looking at me .

" yebo ma ..." talk about awkward ... this woman was exaggerating well not really but that was when i was fifteen last time she saw me... was the time she was telling my mom about how she should guard me because she saw me walking with a boy after school...

I was grounded after that... because she thought I dated that poor boy, who was later confronted by my mom telling him to stay away from me .... mxm that poor boy never talked to me after that.Actually no boy talked to me after that. one of the reasons why I wanted to leave ... they were over protective asf.

''haibo ntombi when are you getting married ... phela wena you're supposed to be having your own kids now... '' ookay .. when did we shift from her greeting us to her talking about marriage. 

I swear this woman has topic for days .

'' I uhm  um'' before i could answer my mom answered.

'' that's why she visited , so we could get her married as soon as possible to one of the other kingdoms... so we could grow ours ...'' she said.

ok ...uhm that just happened.   I didn't even know that ...what the fuck is my mom talking about..

''Hau kwaze kwakuhle lokho... yazii almost thought she was going to end up like those girls that marry after 30... those woman have no respect for our culture.. after thirty the egg no longer functions properly ... I mean look at my daughter in law .... she got married to my son when she was 31 and now she can't even bare me grandchildren .... I really don't understand why my son doesn't leave her..'' she said but before she could continue I butted in.

"Her choosing to get married at 31 has nothing with her being able to carry children. Its probably because of all the  stress you put her through .. you know if you shut up for at least a day or two without always talking about her behind her back or how much you wish your son could leave her... she'll probably get pregnant."

I didn't wait for her to reply and just turned walking away... how can this woman talk like that about her own daughter in law...

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sorry for not updating sooner guys .. I've just been extremely busy these days... and I've just not been doing well ... 

thanks for the support ... and ill try to update frequently .

thank you