Her Sentiments

An ideal man

What's an ideal man?
i don't even understand.
what is an ideal man?
my twenty—one year old version was asked again and like a teenager version of me— I was stunned this time it's because I do understand
tall, dark, and handsome is that all that I'd want?

but what would be my ideal man?
I finally know one
"a kind of man that my daughters would dream to marry,
because they see how he treats me in a way that a muslimah should be,
in a way that Allãh would be please with him endlessly."
when asked what is an ideal man? they would respond:
"a man like abi, who loves ummi,
who takes care of our family,
who strives for us to be in jannah eternally"

Believe me, all a woman would want is a serious commitment and certainty in utmost that would grant her every right that she has towards him which she would willingly give in return.
At the sight of someone who wants to enter in her life, her first contemplation is whether this man would take her to something real moreover if she is a muslimah. All she'd ever want is her heart, finding shelter amidst the eyes which she confused to be a home.

Why do you hear so many people walking away?
Because even those who are married, engaged, and let's include those who are in literally uncertain relationships in general are full of disappointments.
The pattern of mistakes is no longer tolerable. And mind you, no woman walks away at the sight of a single mistake. Women walk away at the sight of mistakes that already have created a pattern.

The kind that always chooses to hurt you because you are forgiving.
'The kind that you are not a priority because you are understanding.
'The kind who don't do anything because they don't hear any complaints from you.
But those disappointments that she has, she let slide, and she forgave are actually banking in her heart that gradually drifts her away from that person that she cherishes. And eventually, she'd no longer be able to take everything in because there is no space for tolerating.

Women emotionally detaches themselves before they physically detach," I read somewhere a long time ago. The size of the truth here. Women have strong tolerance which if you would keep on transgressing, it is also broken.
And when the woman decides to stop, that means she no longer has the energy to deal with more lies, short comings from the person, and everything like it.

And remember this, a love that is not properly sustained eventually dies. The great sustenance of love includes certainty in words and in actions. The type that knows and is sure where it will take you and what it wants to happen to you. When the man is not like that, married or not, relationships become shaky.

Woman's response will always go back to how she's treated by a man. She have the tendency to multiply whatever you give her; good or bad. So if you want a woman to stay, be man enough to be have your words accompanied by your actions. If you don't want to receive less, then don't make her settle for bare minimum that you give. If you want her loyalty, love, respect, and her submissive version, be a man who gives her right of qiwamah towards you and be certain of her.
Even an alpha female softens to a real man.

I wish you would be that ideal man for her, an ideal abi for kids.
Until Jannah!

A.B