Boyfriends and Strangers

Author's Note

Have you ever been the other person?

I understand it's a tough situation, but no matter how strong your feelings are for him, how discreet you both are, or how pleasurable the intimacy is, you will end up regretting it.

You'll find yourself questioning why he hasn't reached out to you yet today. You'll wonder if it's your fault or if he's preoccupied with his significant other. You'll ponder if he's lost interest or if he's moved on. You might even consider holding back next time to make a point.

Despite these thoughts, you'll likely give in when he comes calling for sex. Whether it's due to loneliness, enjoyment, or fear of developing emotions, you'll still give in. And here's the other thing - you can't reveal your feelings to him. It's part of the agreement since he has no plans of leaving his girlfriend anytime soon. If you catch feelings, you'll have to make a choice: either end things or continue, knowing that you might end up hurt.

And trust me, you will get hurt. You'll witness him being happy with his girlfriend, seeing them freely express their love. You'll long for it to be you instead. You'll witness every aspect of their relationship and wish it was you in that position.

You'll attempt to convince yourself that she's a kind-hearted individual who deserves him. Additionally, you'll find yourself getting irritated by her without any valid reason. Eventually, you'll come to the realization that the sole reason for your dislike towards her is because you secretly desire to be in her shoes. You'll yearn for the kind of relationship they share and find yourself constantly fixated on the impossibility of it all.

Believe me, even after weighing all the pros and cons, I can assure you that it's not worth it. You might end up hurting someone else, and most importantly, yourself. There's no fairy tale ending here, no matter how you try to justify it. Sure, he may have feelings for you, but I can promise you that being the other woman will only lead to broken friendships and relationships.

I urge you to consider this advice, not just for your own benefit, but also for the well-being of others who may be impacted. It's important that you don't settle for being someone's second choice. You deserve better than that, and you will eventually find someone who can truly make you feel the way you envision. They will surpass this person in every aspect, as they will be capable of fully committing to you. I speak from the truth of a friend who's been a side chick for a long time, so I hope you trust my words before you decide to experiment with it.

Don't risk it.

This is me,
ren 💙