I hope this message finds you well. I wanted to take a few moments to address your honest and heartfelt email. Firstly, I want you to know that your feelings are valuable and understood. It's certainly clear you have a caring heart and a vigilant mind, both of which are precious qualities in any individual.
I understand that overthinking is a defense mechanism that stems from the fear of being hurt. Indeed, past experiences can leave us wounded, hesitant, and apprehensive about opening ourselves up to potential heartbreak again. Still, it's essential to remember that not everyone is the same. Your fears are valid, but they may not be an accurate reflection of reality.
Allow me to remind you of the importance of trust in any relationship. Yes, it's crucial to be aware of red flags and not be naive, but eventually, a certain level of trust is necessary. Love is full of risk. It makes us vulnerable yet also brings us the most profound joy.
I appreciate your constant vigilance and how you look out for red flags. However, it's vital not to let suspicions cloud your joy and happiness. Being prepared is one thing, living in constant fear is another. Not every change in behavior or tone of voice signifies something negative. Sometimes, it could be just a tough day at work or nothing significant at all.
You are not overly sensitive. You are merely human, and we all experience insecurities and fears. What matters is how you choose to react. Acknowledge your fears, but also work on establishing a sense of trust. It doesn't come easy, and it takes time, but it's the foundation of any meaningful relationship.
The truth is, no one can promise that they won't hurt you or leave you. That's not because they want to, but because life is unpredictable. But isn't it better to live in the moment, enjoy the sincere connection and love, instead of worrying about things that might not even happen?
You mention that you get scared from 'too much happiness'. It's important to understand that you deserve happiness. You are worth it. It's perfectly fine to embrace it and not fear it. Happiness is not something transient that will disappear if you hold on to it too tight.
You caring about our relationship is a beautiful thing, and I understand it's your immense love that drives your fear. But remember, love does not stem from fear. It comes from understanding, trust, compassion, and forgiveness. It's a constant journey of self-growth balancing fear and love.
I'm here for you, and together we can navigate your fears. No one should carry their worries alone, especially not in a relationship. You don't have to be scared about your heart being broken again. Hearts are resilient, and so are you.
Let's focus on today, on us, on our love. Let's cultivate trust and understanding, striving to talk openly about our fears and insecurities. And remember, it's okay to make mistakes along the way. It's through those mistakes that we learn, grow and become better together.
I appreciate your honesty and want to reassure you that any future fears or concerns you have, can be shared openly. You're not alone in this journey. I have immense faith in our relationship and in our ability to work through these fears together.
Best,
