She Won't Judge

Moving and Fitting In

QUESTION : I have trouble fitting in always have and it doesn't help I have social anxiety. I have just moved towns, so obviously I had to change school and I have no idea how to make friends. I am stuck hanging out with people I feel uncomfortable around because they are everything I am not. What can I do to fit in??? And feel more accepted???

SHELLI'S ADVICE : When I was fourteen I moved right in the middle of ninth grade, lovely right? I guess something like this would be different for everyone, but what I did was make friends in class then, if I liked them enough because everyone knows there is a difference between "classroom friends" and REAL friends, I would ask what they were doing for lunch or say "Hey there's a show this weekend, wanna hang out?" I had become friends with this one girl and she was totally awesome, but her friends were just not my type of people per say. We just didn't click. So, and remember this was back in the day, I actually went on MySpace and found my new schools forum thing on there and found some friends there. I started talking to this one girl who seemed really fucking cool and all of her friends seemed really awesome. This lead to me meeting my best chick friend Gabi. But I do remember it sometimes getting awkward because they all knew each other really well and kind of had all their own drama, inside jokes, and politics so whenever I said something or did something I would always get looked at like "Ugh newbie." But I just kept my head held high. Also, I was pretty much fucked up all through out high school so that might have had a BIG part of it. I AM NOT SAYING DO DRUGS!!!

But get an elective that would help you find some people with the same interests as you. Or if you make a classroom friend see if they want to hang out. I know the way I wrote above made this seem like it happened instantly, but there was a good two or three months I pretty much kept to my messed up self. Don't rush things, but also don't not do anything because then you'll come off unapproachable. Be friendly to everyone and SMILE! I was more of a classroom friend person because it came with no strings attached, no drama, and if they got hurt I wouldn't be the first person they called, but again that's me. But I would try Facebook and see if there are any interesting kids on there. Message them or chat them, or whatever is on that dohicky hahaha, and just be open to hanging out. And don't expect the first person you meet to be your click of people. Also don't hang out with people who make your roll your eyes every time they say something.

Having anxiety sucks, but once you do it once and realize you won't die doing it, you'll have more confidence in yourself. Just try not to care what people think or say. Just be yourself. Don't try to change for the sake of finding friends or fitting it.

I hope this helps and if you have any other questions feel free to ask :]

So what about you fellow Wattpadders? Post your moving experiences and what you did to make friends :]