Question (by Sammy, age 16, girl)
How do I say no!?!
Hey Sammy,
Saying no can be difficult for people who are always ready to help people. But sometimes it become very important to say no as the other person just starts taking you for granted. We tend to always give a positive response so as to please people, to keep negativity away from the conversation, to avoid confrontations, etc. But maintaining a balance between the yes and no is important.
Saying no isn't difficult, the difficult part is the feeling of guilt that follows it. To avoid the guilt, understand your situation. Analyse the reason why you want to reply negatively and stick to your resolve. Don't try to make excuses or give long explanations while saying no. Sometimes when one no isn't enough you might have to say it again so as to make your point clear.
But remember don't get addicted to say no. Because that may have adverse affects.
When you don't know how to say no to a guy or girl (who has asked you out) without hurting their feelings, play is cool. Don't freak out and make fun of them or saying "eww" (yes, I have seen people do that). Instead try to be understanding and tell them the reason. The reason might be anything- You not being ready for a relationship, you not liking the person, you already dating someone else, etc.
Sometime, in these cases there is a possibility that your friendship is at stake. In such instances clear things up before it's too late.
A simple reply could be- "No, sorry but thanks for asking." or "I don't think I want to get into any relationships right now." or "How about we get to know each other as friends first.:
That's it for now. Hopefully this will help you.
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Until next time,
Xara
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