A Guide To Living A Christian Life

In Him alone, there's freedom.

Below is a short account of what a teenage girl is going through.

All my life, I've buried the person who I truly am. People's lives, attitudes were the constitutions that governed my life. I've always had this knack of wanting to be like other people. This unthoughtful decision of mine has reduced me to a little worm who finds delight in its little hole. The worm likes to hide itself in its hole, away from prying eyes. Being a worm is totally far from what I had always wanted. I had always wanted to be an EAGLE. The eagle denotes great strength and power. It flies to the height all other creatures won't dare fly to. But, I'm still not an eagle. I've confined myself to being a worm and now, I just want to be free. A worm life is not a life I had envisioned for myself, it's not a life I have delight in continuing to live. It's a life that has made me susceptible and weak. I'm always scampering away from people 'cause I'm scared of them, scared of their opinions about me, scared of the way they see me. I want to be FREE. I hate this worm life I'm living, I want to be the real me.
My words may seem enigmatic to you but it's the truth. I'm suffering on the inside, pained so deeply, because I'm not who l am. I've allowed other people's life to be my constitution, I've made myself falsely believe that I just have to be like them. I've never for once in my life, loved my life, and that's because it doesn't measure up to the standard I've set for myself, it hasn't reached the point I want it to reach, it hasn't aligned with my 'constitution'. I've grown terribly introverted. I have no friends because I'm no friend myself. I trust no one, not even myself. I've shut myself from the rest of the world, just like a worm. I've debased myself to the point that I'm now being trampled upon by people. A pathetic life, isn't it?
I've survived like this for 16 good years. I know within me that I've been living a fake life. I'm far from the woman I want to be. I know if I want to make any good out of life, I must drop that limiting status quo and embrace my true self. I'm ready to do that now, but it isn't easy. I haven't found it easy at all. It's lots more difficult than I thought. I'm slowly wrecking under depression. I talk to myself like a lunatic. Diary, I need help. I've made it a point of duty to always write down whatever thoughts I feel, that's because it brings me great liss. I want a CHANGE. I want to appreciate myself, discover myself, meet friends, etc. I'm tired of this life. I want to be free from the worm life. I can't keep going like this, 'cause if I do, I'm walking right into destruction. Self destruction. I need help! What should I do.....

Above is a typical example of what many people are passing through. They feel they're living worthless lives. They feel no one loves them. They feel they haven't reached the stipulated standard yet.
We live in a world where things done by the rich and popular are what people are striving to do. You see some skinny, anorexic models on runways, and plethora of teenage girls want to be like them.
If we strive to be like another person, we're throwing away our worth. A lot of people judge their lives with other people's lives. They think because some persons are living big, buying cars, building mansions, hanging out with the popular girl or guy in high school, smoking, drinking beer, stealing, they must also be like them. They don't care about the consequences of their actions, the adverse effects or the implications it has on their lives. Just because someone out there who's rich and popular is doing it, they should do it also. This is not supposed to be so. Human beings are prone to errors. Using people's lifestyles to judge yours is akin to self destruction. We're not infallible as we're prone to errors, mistakes, because we're humans. When we use other people's life as a criteria for judging our lives, we end up being frustrated if we don't meet up with the criteria.
Be yourself!