Just A Few Thoughts

Ugh... The Dreaded Relationships...

(I'm sorry, this is mostly one way, and I don't mean it this way, but it's slightly directed at a certain someone, sooo... it goes any way though, the key points. Sorry, I really don't mean to offend anyone. Tbh, I have a really great friend who recently came out to me, and he seconds my advise here. Second point is pretty much his. Plus, dedicated to a good friend, who constantly joins stupid arguments with me on relationships.)

RELATIONSHIPS! OF COURSE, WE'LL START WITH RELATIONSHIPS.

Okay, first point: you don't need to be in a relationship to be happy.

So many people complain of not being in a relationship. That's either because you don't want one, or you're too lazy to try for one.

Personally, I REEEEAAAALLY don't want one, because I'm a very independent, stronger, alpha female (so I like to believe). I don't wanna rely on anyone... I just can't give up my own power.

However, I do find myself needing to be supported somedays, and I do go to sleep with a smile when a boy tells me he cares...

It's a conflicting war for me. Just personally.

AGAIN, PERSONALLY, WHY THE HELL ARE ELEMENTARY KIDS IN RELATIONSHIPS WHEN I AINT?!! And I mean, they think they're actually dating, not recess boyfriend/girlfriend stuff.

Dude, you're not dating unless the boy is payin' for your movie ticket (You know what I mean...). I mean, let's not prematurely date, okay? That ruins actual dates worth your life. And let's not get excited over EVERY new boyfriend, okay? Nothing annoys me and my friend more than a "JUST GOT A BOYFRIEND!!!" status. It's like posting a status about you getting a new phone case. It's exciting (sorta) at first, when it's new and flashy, but once it's cracked and old... I mean, you are LIKELY to BREAK UP, so let's not announce it to the world and all your connections, kay, sweetie? I mean, only put it down if he does something really sweet to you that'll give us hope for humanity, such as him holding your hand and kissing your forehead on the first date you accidentally come across his friends and they're accusing him of being 'whipped' or whatever. Something like that, I can stand.

Such as: I was going through a really rough time for myself, and it kinda sucked, a lot. I was scared of myself alone with my thoughts at night, and I snapped at people easy. My best guy friend, best knows me and actually listens to me, I snapped at one morning. I still feel like shit for it, and I can apologize enough for it. But, I told him he could step back and walk away. At that point, all my friends did. He said he knew he could, but he promised he wouldn't. I mean, what kind of guy does that? I've known none other but this guy (and my brother, but he doesn't count [actually, "brother", but but were such close friends, I won't even quote his title. He is really my brother, for what it's worth to you.]). I posted a status dedicated to him, because, he's one of the reasons I didn't kill myself, and I could never tell him that myself, I am a coward to those types of feelings, and I swallow them whole, not wanting them to soften me, giving a chance for me to get hurt.

I don't care what you thought of that status, but, it meant a lot to me, cause there was a dark secret behind it, not just a quick event change of my life. Do that on twitter, maybe. Some do.... Don't do it till it's actually dating, and almost serious, when it makes a difference in your life, please?

Second point: Don't take control of the other.

Don't be the jealous bitch. I have a lot of guy friends, and nothing pisses them off more than that, kay? So, please. Just... don't. I have nothing more to say. Just, don't.

Third: Keep it private as long as possible.

Yes, there are the kids your parents don't approve of, and yes, there are the other kids who will try to know EVERY DAMN THING about your relationship. It's not keeping them a secret, make that clear, you just wanna prove that this is important, and right before it gets aired on the social news, right?

Keeping it private proves:

Mom: YOU KNOW WHAT I THINK OF HIM! HE'LL CHANGE MY GOOD GIRL!

Daughter: Um, we've been together for a month. I've kept my grades and aced 3 exams. Mom, I'm gonna be okay...

Or

Friend: OMG, YOU'RE TOGETHER?? SINCE WHEN?? TELL ME EVERYTHING!

You: Umm, it's been a month now, there's too much, nothing that it matters anyhow. As I said, it's already been a month.

Point Four: M.Y.O.B.

Mind your own business, people. Like the last, sorta.

Don't be the kid who snoops in other's relationships. Like, can you not?

Actually, a lot of relationships end due to interference from friends. Sooooooo, don't. Unless it's an abusive one (been there, helped a friend out of that), don't get involved!! Or, like me sometimes, they ask for help or opinions.

That's about it, for now.

As I said, ask me a question through DM if you want. :)

~Ally Love