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What Not to Ask/Say to Bisexuals

I'm not gonna do an intro so let's just get into it already;

"Aren't bisexuals more likely to cheat?"

This is just a rude question in general, just because someone is bisexual doesn't mean they are going to be unfaithful to their partners.

"How can you be monogamous?"

Like the "aren't you more likely to cheat?" question, this one has a similar answer. Any person no matter the sexuality can be monogamous, and no matter the sexuality a person can be non-monogamous. It just doesn't matter. Bisexual people can be in polyamorous (polyamory: having multiple sexually or romantically committed at the same , with the consent of all partners involved) relationships, closed relationships, opened relationships etc just like anyone else.

"How do you know your bisexual if you haven't dated someone of the opposite/same sex?"

Well honestly if you're attracted to something, you're attracted to something. You don't have to experience it first hand to know you're attracted to it. That's like asking a virgin how do they know they'll enjoy sex if they haven't done it yet.

"You're dating someone of the opposite/same gender, are you straight/gay now?"

No. Just because a bisexual person is in a relationship it doesn't mean they change their sexual orientation. If they are dating a person of the opposite sex it simply means that they are a bisexual person in a straight relationship.

"Choose a side already."

Um excuse me? Sexuality isn't a choice and sexuality isn't just two "sides". It is not up to you to decided what a persons sexuality is.

"Do you have a lot of threesomes?" & "Do you have a lot of sex?"

Just because someone is attracted to multiple sexes doesn't mean they automatically bone a lot of people.

"Bisexual people are just greedy."

Like stated before some people who are bisexual are polyamorous but that doesn't make them greedy. Being bi doesn't make them greedy.

"This is just a phase."

The saying "this isn't a phase mom" has never felt so right to say. Labeling bisexuality as a phase is so rude to do and assuming someones gonna "grow out of it" is even worse.

"Are you just afraid to say you're gay?"

Well the fact I have to write a chapter about things not to say or ask bisexuals I think that saying you were gay would get you less bs than the stuff bi people have to go through.

I hope we all learned something today.

I hope you enjoyed this chapter, I will be writing more chapters like these including asexuality, pansexuality etc. Personally I'm not bisexual but I've heard these things be said to a few people and a few of my friends, and it really is just annoying to know how someone can be so rude to another person.

Have any questions, comments, concerns? Feel free to contact me!

-Megan

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