Depression/ Self Harm Help

How to tell someone you are depressed

Okay so I'm going to tell you my story about coming out to someone about having depression. I told my teacher at school. And for the purpose of privacy and safety, I'm going to call her Mrs. Rhodes.

Okay so back in October, soccer season was going on. There were games where I would be the ONLY person who didn't play. That crushed my self esteem. My grades ended up falling and I noticed myself not being interested in a lot of things anymore. I have a diary entry(ies) from the day(s) I came out to my teacher. Here they are.

Monday, October 17, 2016
Today, I was just in a really upset mood all day and in lunch I started crying. I'm guessing Mrs. Rhodes saw me and she came over and sat next to me and she's like "Are you alright?" I told her "yeah". She also asked me if I wanted to talk later and I nodded my head. I went to her room after school to grab my soccer bag for my last game of the season. She asked me if I was feeling any better, and I told her "not really." Then she said, "If you ever need to talk, I'm here." Well, that night I emailed her and sent her this really long paragraph about everything that has been going on. She replied and then I sent her another message. After that, I went to sleep.

Tuesday, October 18, 2016
I was really upset again today and it felt like the last time I laughed and actually smiled was Saturday. I usually laugh and smile like everyday and it's just odd. I got a 65 on my math review, and it ruined my day even more. I just want to be my old happy self again where I'm always smiling and laughing. It feels like I've been crying more than smiling lately. Whenever I see someone really happy, I get upset and think, "Why can't I be that happy?" So, after lunch, I asked Mrs. Rhodes of I could come after school and talk to her about what was going on. I told her literally everything. Every single tiny thing. It felt good to just tell someone that doesn't really know what's going on, everything. It made me feel a lot better.

Okay so, as I was talking to Mrs. Rhodes she looked up my symptoms online and asked if I thought I had this. I nodded my head when she asked me about depression and she gave me a hug. Ever since then, I went to her about anything and we built a strong relationship.

So basically, when you want to come out to someone with your depression, tell them what's going on and slowly get into it. They'll expect it more after you tell them exactly how you feel.