Bullying

Feelings during the period and how to deal with them

Dedicated to my bestie roshy81. Thank you for getting me through some tough times and being there when noone else was. I owe my life to you. <3

Ok so theres one thing that sucks the most about going through bullying. Its the way it makes you feel. Ive been bullied before and it made me feel like a train wreck because im normally a very optimistic, positive person. Im going to focus on bullying in high school between females. Correct me if im wrong but with girls theres a lot more psychological bullying in comparison to boys who are more violent. Flesh wounds may heal but inner wounds wont.

The first most prominent feeling that bullying can cause is isolation. As in Amanda's story to the right, (didnt sow video- link will be below) may lose all your friends and become a little isolated. Back when I was being bullied, I found myself becoming really desperate to find friends and ultimately became more insecure and clingy. The clinginess got annoying to many people so I ultimately lost more friends. The truth was that I did have friends but I became so insecure I couldnt trust myself to keep them. When I think about it now, I cringe but I do not regret what I did. This is because it was normal and not my fault. I found a few ways to deal with this feeling. Firstly make sure you surround yourself with positive people you know well. A positive surrounding will make you feel ore positive. Id advise you to hang out with different people once in a while or hang out in a big group so you can get to know other people. There is the issue of "using" people and girls thinking that you dont really care. If that is the case then just ignore them and act yourself. Acting overly nice can become unbearing and will deepen their suspicions further.

Another feeling I experienced was worthlessness. There were days where I felt so negative about myself and I felt as worthless as a penny. Well I didnt really deal with this well as honestly, even today my self esteem isnt as good as it should be.  However, with some inspiration from a text my friend sent me and the amazing internet, I present 10 ways to boost your self esteem:

1. Stop comparing yourself to others. Trying to live up to or exceed someone else’s personal best is a losing game. As the saying goes, “How boring would it be if we were all the same?” Focus on being the best you that you can be. As my friend says: "Be yourself because everybody else is taken." You are amazing and if you or anyone thinks otherwise they are wrong!

2. Compliment yourself regularly, either by looking in the mirror and saying something you like about yourself or writing it in a journal. Many times, we’re quick to compliment others on their success but hesitate to do the same for ourselves. This may seem pretentious but this is really good. How many good things can you say about yourself? Anything under 5 isnt enough. 

3. Exercise consistently, at least 30 minutes of exercise several times a week, to strengthen muscles and to burn calories. Improve your physical strength, and you may feel a sense of empowerment that can dramatically enhance your self-esteem. This does help me but I am the world's laziest person and it doesnt help that Im not fit so feel weak and inferior. If this is the case then take a long refreshingwalk. It helps to clear the ming and can burn off extra calories.

4. Simply smile. The mere act of smiling changes blood flow to the brain and can actually makes you feel happier and relieve tension. A smile sets off chemical and physical reactions within your mind and body, releasing endorphins that boost your mood. Smiling can also make you feel beautiful. It helps you live longer too!

5. Focus on your accomplishments. Forgive yourself for mistakes and focus on the positive by celebrating your victories. Consider writing them down so you can review and reflect when you’re feeling down and need to renew your confidence. "What lies beind us and what lies before us does not compare to what lies within us,"

6. Get the support you need to succeed. Join a weight-loss support group, like TOPS, which can help you to stay on track to accomplish your wellness goals. Fellow members will help keep you motivated. Surround yourself wih positive, kind people.

7. Make a list of your positive qualities. Are you generous? Kind? Write down at least ten positive qualities about yourself and return to this list as often as needed to boost your morale.

8. Find something special in each day. Even if it’s in a small way, do something pleasant and rewarding, like catching up on your favorite television show, taking a walk to the park, or indulging in a bubble bath. Or treat yourself to something small that isn’t a food or beverage, like a manicure or a new piece of costume jewelry.

9. Eat better. Pay attention to your food choices and nourish your body. Buy healthier foods and prepare well-balanced meals that will help give you energy and feel like your best self – not sluggish and overstuffed. 

10. Explore a passion. Whether it’s a side job, hobby, or as a volunteer, pursuing your passion in even a small way can lead to a sense of purpose and significantly improve your overall happiness and quality of life.

My final few emotions were anger, sadness and fatigue. I would find myself grinding my teeth, crying my eyes out or just falling asleep. All of which are wrong and unhealthy. Try diverting your attention to something else to help bring more focus into your life.

Thats it from me today guys. I hope that it helps and makes you feel the way you deserve. Pleas vote and leave your opinions down below to try and spread his message. Goodbye amazing people:)

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