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Love me, Love me not

This chapter is dedicated to all the people who have fallen in love.

"Love doesn't hurt. Loving the wrong person does." - Internet

Love is a mysterious thing. Love is a single feeling that has the power to make us feel different emotions. Falling in love changes a person even a little bit. Love makes us do silly things. Love makes us feel giddy. Love makes us feel insecure. Love makes us care too much. Love sometimes hurts us. Love sometimes backfires us. That's why I would like to describe love as a 'Poisonous cure'. Does the term 'Poisonous cure' make any sense to you? No? Well, so does love. Love doesn't make any sense at all. Love doesn't have a logic. Therefore love can't be described. Some people say that their heart beats faster, they feel happy and so on. But they are only the side effects of falling in love. The feeling of love can't be described by anyone in this world. Love can't be put into words because love isn't meant to be known; it is only meant to be felt.

Love sometimes hurts us. Getting hurt can't be avoided when you are in love. We can't stop loving someone just because they hurt us purposely or accidently. We have no control over our love for that person. Therefore we can't lessen it. But you must decide what to do with your love if that person often hurts you badly. You have a right to decide whether you deserve a better person. It doesn't matter whether that person hurts you physically, mentally, verbally, .......... you name it. What matters is how much your heart suffers and cries in pain whenever that person hurts you. Your brain has to step in and start making life changing decisions. Should you keep loving that person? Should you give them another chance? Should you leave them?

Like I said earlier, we can't stop loving someone just because they hurt us. But you must decide whether you should allow yourself to continue loving that person or leave that person. You must decide whether your suffering is worth it. You must decide whether you love yourself more than you love that person. You should understand that you have a right to make these kinds of decisions. I'm not telling you to place yourself above that person. I'm telling you to love yourself just like you love that person. Treat yourself right. Know that you deserve to be happy and you have a right to end your suffering. Don't let your love for that person ruin your life. Don't make your love blind you. If you decide that you deserve better, leave that person at once. It might be hard for you to leave the person you love. But time heals everything and even if the process is slow, you will move on from the person who hurt you. Just keep in your mind that you are worth everything.

If you are a person who is heartbroken because your partner cheated on you, first of all, calm down. Calm yourself and clear your mind. This is a moment you have to be wise and take necessary decisions but you won't be able to do that if you don't think clearly. To think clearly, you have to maintain a calm and clear mind. It doesn't matter how you got to know that your partner is cheating. Maybe a friend told you. Maybe you saw it with your own eyes. No matter how you got to know, ask your partner for an explanation. Maybe they will tell the truth. But there is a big chance that they won't tell the truth. After they give you an explanation, you must decide whether they are telling the truth or not. Forget your love for them for a moment and leave all the work to your brain. You must decide whether it was all a misunderstanding or whether your partner is lying to you. Like I said earlier, don't make your love for your partner blind you. Be wise and make a decision you won't regret later on. Your partner might come apologising and begging after you, but remember that if your partner really loves you, there should be no reason for them to cheat on you. So my biggest advice for you is to take your time and be wise. Stay or leave.

If you are a person who is heartbroken because your crush rejected you, you have two choices. You can either not give up and try to win your crush over or give up and move on from that person. Ask your crush the reason for the rejection. If the reason is reasonable, give up on that person. As an example, if you are straight and your crush is gay, you should give up on that person. But it's totally your choice. Life is full of surprises. Who knows? Maybe your crush will later figure out that they are bi or something. Anyways, even though it seems like it would be better for you to move on, it's also fine not to. Just make sure that you won't regret the decision you take. If there is someone who has a crush on you, give a chance to that person. You know what it feels like to be in an unrequited love very well. It's painful. It hurts. The person who has a crush on you is also going through the same thing. So it would only be fair to give that person a chance rather than waiting for someone to come who you aren't sure would come. Who knows? You might even find that person interesting. If the reason for the rejection is unreasonable, well, it's totally up to you to give up or not. The decision whether you should give up or not depends on how much the reason is unreasonable. Yes, I know. I know how painful it is to give up your love when all you want is your love to be returned. I know how hard it is to move on when all you want is to hold the person you love tightly and never let go. But no matter how hard it is, you must do this for your own sake. Everything might be painful for you right now because everything you see, hear, and do reminds you of the person you love.Memories of that person might pop up in your mind without your permission and you might even try to block them in order to lessen your suffering. But one day you will turn back, look into your past and be glad that you moved on. Love isn't meant to be painful. But loving the wrong person does that to you. Find someone who deserves both you and your love.