Youth Club : Teen guide

Sex and Virginity

George and Clara have been dating for close to 3 months now. Clara is so fun of him,he makes her feel loved,seems like she has known him for ages.She could speak to him for hours without being bored and wanted more.He shared her dreams and she hoped one day she will share his too. A typical Kind of perfect gentle man she thought.

But sitting in his parked car under the beautiful light of the full moon,he tells her about his intentions of taking things further. She who had been contented of their passionate kisses,hugs and carress ,is rather reluctant but he doesn't think that way,he wants more. "After all we love each other,or you can't prove it to me?" He asks her,staring into her eyes,caressing the curve of her cheek with the tip of his fingers.
Clara has heard about the long sermons on sex before marriage and virginity but she loves George and doesn't want to loose him. What should I do? (She asks her self)

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Cucu lovely wattpaders How have you been?? ,sorry for the long pause ,no update. Was working on my other "cliché Christian romance novel" -Breaking the preacher son. But don't feel bad,I have not abandoned this my baby,I will not abandone it this early😂. Well enough of all that,let's dive in today's matter

Today ,we are going to discuss on a very current topic between youths titled Sex and Virginity. If you read the short story above,you will understand one of the numerous dilemmas youths are faced with. (Sorry if it is typical girlish but you can exchange the roles if you are a boy because boys experience pressure too from girls to have sex)

"Are you still a virgin?" Just that simple question can cause numerous reflections. Being a virgin in our today's society is considered  old fashioned and the person may be termed "abnormal". It is not surprising that many youths are disvirgined even before the age of 18

Contrary to preconceived ideas,you don't have to have sex with your partner to consolidate your relationship. A good relationship has more solid bases than sex. In the case of Clara sighted above,do you think George really loved her or was he just out for his personal sexual satisfaction? In the same way,if a girl/boy insist you should turn away from your Christian education or act against your faith and conscience, someone who pushes you to deny biblical laws has NO SINCERE LOVE  toward YOU. Ephesians 5 v 6 says : do not let anyone deceive you with foolish words,it is because of these very things that Gods anger will come upon those who do not obey him.

Set limits: To avoid such deeds to happen you have to set limits in your relationship. Will you wait for your house to be on fire before setting an alarm? Well not. Seemingly, as a Christian boy /girl,you have to set limits between your partner and you.

The Bible doesn't condemn shows of affection. Songs of Solomon recount a passionate love relationship between a Shepherd and a shoulamite. Nevertheless, you should be careful in your manner of showing affection for each other. Caresses on sensible body parts or sensual kisses to arouse any sexual desire should be avoided. Before you know it ,it might be too late. It may be embarrassing to talk about it with your partner but trust me it is worth it and very necessary.

Some may think "it is fun after all". Even movies portray youths having sex to express their love and eventually end up together  but dear,bare in mind that  movies are fictional meaning not all is real.

Think about it " what will happen if I have sex with this girl /boy?" There are numerous sexually transmittable diseases and no method offers 100% protection as abstinence. You are not sure to be his/her first sexual partner. Moreover statistics have it that youths (boy/girl) rarely end up or get married to the people they have slept with before. So having sex with your partner does not guarantee you his/her eternal love or consolidate your relationship.

Above all it is against Jehovah's laws . If your boy friend /girl ask you such,you shouldnt give in. Even if he /she is a "christian " or shares your christian views.God tells  us to flee from immoral people even if they claim to be "Christians".

In Corinthians 5 v 9-11 the bible says " ...I told you to not associate with immoral people. I don't mean pagans who are immoral ......what I meant was that you should not associate with a person who calls himself a believer but is immoral..... Don't even sit down or eat with such a person."

If she/he   loves you and  wants to make you his/her life patner ,there is still no need for sex .why being in a haste to have what will be rightfully yours all your life after marriage?? If he /she persuades you saying "if you love me ,you will do it" ,you should answer "if you loved me ,you wouldn't ask for it"
Your body has much worth and value. Remember it is the temple of the holy spirit.

Let us read this in 1 Corinthians 6 v 15-16 :  you know that your bodies are parts of the body of Christ. Shall I take a part of Christ body and make it part of the body of a prostitute? Impossible! Or perhaps you don't know that the man who joins his body to a prostitute becomes one with her? The scripture says quite plainly ,"The two will become one body"

Let's go down further to verse 18 of the same chapter "Avoid immorality. Any other sin a man commits does not affect his body,but the man who is guilty of sexual immorality sins against his own body"

I believe no further explanations are  needed.

Note : the bible verses are drawn from "Good News " bible version. I don't understand the language in King James and other bible versions. This one is simpler. If it doesn't read exactly the same in your bible,don't be mad. Just draw the sense from it

Conclusion
It is true that it is not always easy to resist temptations but remember that sexual arousal or exotic feelings are not the only emotions God left us to feel. In his infinite  goodness and justice ,he gave us a free mind to feel,love,hatred,anger,sadness,boredom,happiness and many others. But we have to use these feelings for the glory of God.
Virginity is like a givt from God to be used only on our marriage.
It is silly if your friend sneaks and opens a givt you bought for their birthday even before you offer it.Such is it when you have sex before the expected time

What if your friend ask "seriously are you still a virgin?"
Don't feel intimidated !

You can ans "yes and you know what,am very proud about it"

Or

"It is personal,I don't discuss about it"

Or better still stay silent and avoid the question

That was it for today

Hope it edified someone
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Stay bless!! 😘😘
Jesus  loves you and I too😍😍

💖Nissy