MASOCHISM

Chapter 1

Emotional Masochism: Why Do You Secretly Want to Be Miserable?

Emotional masochism is when you find pleasure in engaging in emotional negativity and being miserable. In fact, an emotional masochist not only enjoys misery, they seek it out.

There are some who say they search to be happy. Then, the minute it is right in front of them, they throw drama and blow it all apart.

Being addicted to unhappiness is not as uncommon as you'd believe. Most just never see the way that we sabotage our own happiness because we receive pleasure from our angst.

20 signs of emotional masochism

Different from depression, an emotional masochist enjoys being unhappy and seeks out things to make themselves feel down. I know, it is confusing... Very similar to other terms like self-sabotage, self-fulfilling prophecies, and other limiting factors that one engages. Emotional masochism is a mindset guided by seeking misery while under the guise of wanting happiness. [Read: ]

The thing about being an emotional masochist is that most lack awareness that they actually do things to make themselves miserable to feel good.

If you constantly find yourself in a sad mood, looking for the negative side of any situation, or finding yourself "unlucky" all the time then you might be your own worst enemy and standing in the way of your own happiness.

#1 You know Facebook makes you miserable, but you take a peek anyway. People with emotional masochism know that something makes them absolutely miserable but refuse to cut it out of their life.

If you get on Facebook every day to look up and see what past loves and friendships are doing without you, then you might be doing it to pull yourself back into misery. Stop! [Read: ]

#2 You reach out to people who are toxic to you. If you are someone who swore off a friend or a family member but then get anxious and send them a message on the holidays only to be kicked again by no response, then you might be an emotional masochist.

People who bang their head against an emotional wall aren't insane. They gain some benefit from it = emotional masochism.

#3 When things are too quiet you find a problem just to stir things up. When you feel a tinge of relief and sanity, you look around and find somewhere to stir up trouble.

If it is quiet, you rehash shit from the past or drag yourself back into a cycle of things that lead to a downward spiral. That is all on you. Examine why being miserable feels so damn good. [Read: ]

#4 You stay in a relationship that makes you miserable. People roll their eyes and say things like "Why do you stay?," but you just do. Being beat up and letting someone make you feel horrible is just your cross to bear... Or do you feel better when someone treats you worse? [Read: ]

#5 When you are in a good relationship you break up because it isn't the right one. If every nice person you have a relationship with isn't your type, then stop and think about what your type is? Could it be someone who treats you badly because you are all about the emotional masochism?

#6 You're upset with someone about something. If it seems like you want to be bothered by someone all the time, then you might be an emotional masochist.

If you are okay with everyone in your life and feel like you should create a problem to displace your anguish, then you make yourself miserable. Not to mention those around you too.