MASOCHISM

Chapter 4

How to Deal With a Masochist

  Masochism is often destructive psychologically to those who are affected by it. Interacting with someone with a masochistic personality or masochistic tendencies can wear down the threads of any good relationship, causing conflict and emotional disturbances. However, dealing with a masochist can be difficult if you aren't working with some basic information about how the masochist functions. Learn how to deal with a masochist and make your life a bit easier.  

Physical pain is how the body alerts you that something is wrong with you on the physical level and requires your immediate attention.

No matter how small the injury is, you tend to care for it properly as soon as possible; otherwise the pain or the inconvenience usually get only stronger and stronger. In cases of any more serious injuries or health issues, you immediately rush to a doctor, specialist or the ER.

The story is quite different when it comes to emotional pain, psychological issues and mental wellbeing. In cases of severe personality disorders or mental health problems (depression, anxiety, bipolar, schizophrenia etc.), there's no other way but to get professional help as soon as possible.

The same as it is with severe body injuries.

On the other hand, many "soft indicators" of emotional pain and psychological issues get ignored. It's like having a papercut that never gets healed. It's not life-threatening, but it for sure is annoying.

To be fair, people in such situations most often do try different (meditation, transformational vocabulary etc.), but they never get really serious about developing strong feelings of trust, personal power, proactivity, identity and self-worth, and finally heal that paper cut.

In a way, it's very understandable why. Getting serious about fixing even small emotional distortions requires substantial financial, emotional and time investment. Most often it can be done only with months of consistent work backed by professional help and one chosen type of scientific-based therapy (psychoanalysis, CBT, transactional analysis etc.).

And an even stronger reason for not getting serious about developing extraordinary mental and emotional strength seems to be that people get used to living with high emotional velocity and a negative mind, believing that happiness and a warm, fulfilling life is only for fairytales. But it's not.

On top of that, emotional suffering is not seen from the outside very well – most people walking around seem okay. Sometimes it isn't even seen on the inside, because the real reason for suffering can reside unnoticed on the unconscious level.

Many people are not even aware that they are emotionally suffering.

But the cost of any lasting emotional pain is enormous. Relationships suffer, life can't be fully enjoyed, you rarely believe in yourself enough to follow your own dreams, even small irritations lead to .

Happiness with a smile on your face becomes something alien to you. It's definitely worth to tackle even the smallest emotional issue and solve it once and for all.

You only have one life and maximizing its quality is the wisest decision you can make. And the only way to get to a real quality life and personal happiness is to develop strong emotional foundations and a firm positive mind. But first we have to take a step back.

First, you must become aware that there are some tight emotional knots smothering you.Thus, I prepared a list of soft indicators that often can be (but not always are) signs of emotional suffering and lighter types of psychological issues. They are worth tackling if you wish to maximize the emotional quality of life.

Soft indicators are things that we all experience at some point in life. They are not solid proof of anything, only something that is worth exploring further; especially if they're consistently present in your life or they somehow escalate to an extreme.