We have had a few followers and a few close friends, that have have been having a problem understanding the difference between a Dom and a Pervert. It can be hard to tell the real thing from the pretenders (Perverts) out there, so we decided to give you a check list to help you all out.
There are a lot of pretenders out there and pretenders don't just give the rest of us a bad name, they are dangerous. They take advantage of people who are new to this, they prey on those who don't understand the BDSM / DDLG relationship, and they foster fear and misunderstanding from the people who choose more conventional life styles. I will say it again, pretenders are dangerous.
So, lets get started on our list. Any of the things mentioned in bold below should be a signal to you to run, run fast and don't look back. Don't give second chances. You will just make it worse by encouraging them and more importantly you will give them courage and embolden them to victimize others.
If they do not respect you as a person with rights, wants and needs of your own, he is not a Dom.
If they know you have a Dom or a Daddy and pursues you anyway, they is not a Dom.
If they try to engage you in any BDSM, DDLG etc.. action without discussing rules and limits first, they are not a Dom.
If they don't respect the agreed on rules, limits, safe words, telling them no or stop and instead ignores it, whines, pleads or attempts to coerce you into going further, they are not a Dom.
If you tell them to stop or use your mutually agreed on safe word and they don't immediately stop everything that is going on like someone just dumped a bucket of ice water on them, they are not a Dom.
If they use alcohol or drugs as an excuse for their behavior in crossing limits or lines, they are not a Dom.
As we think of more, we will add them. If you can think of any we missed or want to share some advice of your own, feel free to comment below.
Know the difference between Doms and Pervert pretenders. Don't be a victim and don't allow yourself to be bullied into things you aren't comfortable with. Be safe, Stay safe, Play safe and enjoy yourself.
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