Butterfly Minds

What is Love?

What is Love?

Love. What is it? Is it just a feeling? An action? Something humans use as a distraction from all the shit that's happening in life? Something to blame everything on? Something used to ease the human brain? Something used by society to fuck us up? To control us? To make us look down on the people who don't have it? To separate the entire human race between the people who have it, the people who don't and the people who never will?

No.
No it is not.

Love is happiness that nothing, nothing else can bring you. Money. Family. Work. School. College. Love is waking up and the first thought that comes to mind is that person. The special person.

Love is like a pit. You're falling, endlessly, never getting the sense of the ground. In a deep hole. Your stomachs turning and flipping, doing cartwheels in your body except instead of retching and puking your stomach flutters and you get flustered.

This is something most people had to learn the hard way: Life will always have struggles and it will never give up on trying to make your life the worst. Life comes with pain, whether if you're black, white, fat, skinny, tall, short, Muslim, Buddhist, Christian, Atheist, Straight, Bi, gay, lesbian, trans and so much more. Whether you're old or young, ugly or beautiful, famous or not, you will always face trouble and pain and there's no escaping it. You have no choice over whether you're going to go through the pain or not, how or when it's going to happen BUT you do have a choice over who you want to go through the struggle and pain with. The blood sweat and tears. And that's love.

I could've chosen anyone from 7 billion people to share my struggles and pain with but I chose you. If you chose right, your special person - whether they're a family member, a friend or a lover – they will be here for you.

A lover doesn't always have to be there for you since day 1. But a lover is someone who comes into your life randomly and maybe even accidentally but chooses to stay permanently and stand right next to you as tears blur your vison and as they hold back tears too. You laugh, they laugh. You smile, they smile. You cry, they cry. You love and so do they.

A lover will watch you conquer the world and your demons with one hand as they hold the other. In a relationship, you have to understand your lover's struggles, pain and mental health. Balance is crucial in a relationship. A lover holds your hand as you fight all your dark demons and cries when you do, feeling prouder than ever. But you have to realize that you too have to do the same for them.

Love is about compromise.
If you love someone you're willing to do anything to keep them in your life.
Here is an example of compromise: You like Pizza Hut but your lover likes Domino's sometimes you have to shut up and eat at Domino's for your lover's happiness and so does your lover. You have to also remember to give and take.

Love is about experiencing new things.
Just like the past example you've now tried something new and therefore you created a new memory with your lover. And who knows maybe you start liking Domino's too. But most importantly, you're beginning to understand your lover's interests and what makes them happy other than you of course. Now what you just did here is that you stepped out of your comfort zone for the happiness of this person. That is compromise. That is love.

Love is like a fortune cookie.
You never know what to expect but with each cookie comes a different experience and with each experience comes some new knowledge until you get the perfect cookie. The cookie that speaks your soul. The cookie that you are proud of. The cookie you live by.

The difference between 'like' 'love and 'in love' is
'for now' 'for a while and 'forever'

Saying "I love you" isn't easy and shouldn't be either. "I love you" is a commitment made by the human soul to something it deeply admires. When you say "I love you" to a lover it may seem like just some words, but no one should ever think of it that way.

Because "I love you" doesn't mean a fucking thing if you spit it down the throat of every girl who makes you feel less dead inside.

Saying "I love you" is like saying "When the time comes I will marry you. I will give my heart, soul, body, blood sweat and tears into this relationship and I will do whatever it takes for your happiness. I will congratulate you when you succeed and encourage you to do your best when you don't I will stand by you, holding your hand through thick and thin, through the sunny days and the rainy, through the black and white. And every obstacle life throws our way we will conquer together, back to back."

Love was never easy, and it never will be. If love is easy for someone it's not right. Because every couple fights and every couple has their arguments but only the ones who truly love each other will apologize and will not stop until they bring a smile onto the others face. That is love. Because when you're truly in love with someone you see all their flaws and still think they're perfect.