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Being stalked for 16 years is enough!
This is probably going to be a LONG read so please bare with me as this story has a LOT of details. The reason I wanted to share my experience is because I know a lot of people have at one time in their lives, dealt with someone who was either super creepy or began to stalk them. So here goes!

Here is a short history of how this all began. I was about 16 when my Mother told me a friend of hers needed a babysitter and I was more than willing to take the job because I could always use the extra cash. I have a very close relationship with my Mother so I had complete trust in this friend of hers as my Mother doesn't trust just anyone. So I began to babysit for her 10 and 7 year old daughters. The oldest had a major attitude but after I became their regular sitter, she wasn't as difficult to deal with. If you're curious as to why I am sharing this, it's a vital detail to the story.

Let's fast forward several years. I am about 19 years of age now. I know this because I had graduated high school the year before. This was a major deal in my life so it's all very vivid in my mind. I hadn't babysat for this family for about 2 years by this time. I was pretty busy with going to college, working my part-time job and spending spare time with family and close friends. One day my Mother approaches me and asks if I would be willing to befriend a girl that her parents felt need socialization. She gave me a few details before I made my decision. She told me that the girl that she wanted me to befriend was one of the girls I used to sit for. I asked her who she was referring to as I sat for several families when I was a full-time sitter, she told me who it was. I was slightly hesitant because of the attitude she had when I first met her but I was always open to helping other people in any way that I could.

I began to get together with her every once in awhile. I would invite her to small gatherings with some of my other friends, but only if there were other younger ones with us, like their little sisters or something. I was always in groups of people of various ages. Usually around the age of 13+ and always with both guys and girls. My older friends and I were sort of the "big sisters" of the group so that's why we were always happy to have those type of get-togethers.

She slowly opened up to me. She began to share with me that she was dealing with depression and often felt that she was unloved by her family and friends. She also told me she had contemplated suicide and was cutting herself. Well, the reason I took to her more than the other younger ones is because I had dealt with those same exact thoughts and feelings when I was around her age. So I would do my best to give her a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on. I would give her some advice, that I thought would benefit her. Once she felt she could trust me, I tried to broaden her horizon but things slowly would take a strange and eventually sinister turn.

Now when I would try to invite her to our usual get-together or social events, she seemed very standoffish. I was a little surprised but not much because I knew how difficult things were for her and it did take her some time to warm up to people. Eventually she began to try and drag me along in her when she had her 'I don't want to be here' attitude. For example; we would go to the house of another friend of mine. There would be maybe 6-8 of us total and we would watch movies or do something else. This was before the days of social media and the 'everyone has a cell phone' era. She seemed to want to go, but as soon as we got to where ever it was we were, she wanted to leave. She would pull me aside and say, "I don't want to be here, let's go." Well, I at first was kind and would tell her, "Come on, let's just stay for a little while and if you still don't want to stay, we will leave." I soon learned that she didn't want to stay, even if we all were having a great time.

Eventually she kept pulling me aside whenever we were in a group gathering. So I eventually stopped inviting her because all she wanted to do was leave, no matter what the circumstances were. I mention this because it's another vital part of the story.