INFJ Me

Having Expectations

Do you ever love people so much like to the moon and back and suddenly, the next second you despised them to the fullest? You're not alone.

I have to admit, I have a high expectation not only for myself but the people around me especially if you're close to me, the bar will just keep getting higher. But, time flies and experiences from the past taught me a lot that unless I lower down the expectation I will just keep getting hurt by them even by simplest action like my group of close friends went out together without inviting me. We both knew, I wouldn't go but the offer mattered to me. 

At that moment, I felt like there's no true friendship out there. You might think I'm overreacting but it happened and at that moment, the feeling is real. The feeling of isolated and abandonment hurts. So, I started to not put high expectation from anyone especially humanity (lol). Not only to protect myself but also to protect them from myself in case I throw a tantrum or anything . 

So, when someone did something that I didn't expect (since I quit having expectations), I felt really happy. Even a small deed of kindness can touched me and to be truth, the smallest one is always the one leaving the bigger impact on me. It gives me hope all over again. When those time comes, I fall in love with humans all over again. The hurt of not having my expectations fulfilled is balanced by the happiness of unexpected kindness. I guess there's a good and bad side of this side eh.

Who am I lying to when I said I stop having expectations for people? There's always, at least a small part in me that is hoping and wishing but I try myself to keep it to the minimum as possible because not only it will hurts me later but it's not fair for other people around me as well.

Always remember that people are not perfect. They can hurt you anytime but sometimes it's not because they wanted to. They do it unconsciously and maybe don't even realize they're hurting you, so please think thoroughly before we act or decide or something. Remember that we're also not perfect and there are time when we have accidentally or not hurt others too.

Please always treat people with kindness because we don't know their stories. Just like they don't know ours.

First of all, I would like to say THANK YOU  to all the readers. It makes me so happy to know that my words and thoughts reach you guys :'') Thank you, I appreciate all of you (and ofc the votes too) !

Some of you might have come here because of the Infj words but let me tell you that this is my thought AS an Infj but it doesn't mean the other types can't relate as well. I hope what I've written can open up our minds and help us to see the world and life a bit differently. I would love to know you guys opinion :)

ps; sorry for the grammar error and inconsistent updates because - warning- I only can write when I'm fulled with inspirations and emotions ;p hence my grammar nazi side can't catch up lol

Love,

naiorim, your fellow INFJ :)