Coming out can be a wonderful thing. It can allow you to be yourself, and usually be generally happier, but sometimes it's not a good situation to do such a thing, and there isn't much we can do to help.
It's important that before you come out, you've fully come out to yourself. That you're accepting of who you are first. Because, if you aren't comfortable with yourself, there might be other problems making your coming out experience worse than it should be.
You need to make sure that, if you do come out, it's safe to do so, especially if it's a family member that you depend on financially. If you have assessed the situation and you feel as it is unsafe to come out, please don't. I understand why you want to, but this could result in bad ends. If you decide to come out, despite bad circumstances, please make sure you have a place to go, whether that be a close friend, or a shelter.
How to come out is an interesting thing, and there isn't really one right answer. People have done it over text, letters, calls, in person. It's best to figure out what makes you most comfortable and safe. If you do it over a text or letter, this gives the person time to think about it before they respond, it gives them time to understand your point of view. If you do it over a call, you could do it with a friend or two around, people being there to support you. In person, you could do it in real time, with a human touch, and more emotion. Honestly, whichever you like best.
An important thing to remember when coming out to family members or guardians, is negativity can be a bit different than you may interpret it. Most likely, these people were from a very different generation, a generation in which the lgbt community wasn't considered a safe place. It's less of, I hate my child because they are this way, and more of, I want my child to be safe.
Remember that whether you're coming out to friends or family, you don't have to do any of it until you're ready to do so. This is your life, and your identity, do it when you feel is right.
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A Guide To Transitioning
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