Backstory: I (20F) dated this guy (22M) in high school. I'm now 20 and a college graduate. He was 2 years older than me and we were suppose to be two grades apart but graduated the same year due to him flunking. We started dating when I was 14 and he was 16. We dated until he was 19 and I was 17. We broke up the beginning of my senior year of high school due to me finding out he was talking to underaged girls and one transgender male to female. I found out because she told me they were talking and I was like hey bud thats my boyfriend. We didn't go to the same high school so it was a little easier for him to get away with things behind my back. Anyways he had this friend whom is a girl to guy transgender. I never worried about her because she identified as a guy. (calling this person a L and her/she because L was born a female22) (calling my ex H22). This was my first serious high school relationship and I did some wrong doings. I did not cheat, but I did sometimes emotionally neglect H. I have mental health issues and I understand I wasn't always pleasant. I was young and didn't really understand relationships, learned along with H because it was both a first relationship for us.
Plot Twist: H started dating L about a year after we broke up. We all went to the same college and that's more or less how I found out is I seen them holding hands in the cafe of the college. I didn't think anything because hey we broke up a year ago, I too moved on and was dating someone since that summer before college but we didn't go to the same college. I thought absoulety nothing of there relationship other than I was happy for him. I never made comments on either person which is why I am so confused to this day. Here is the plot twist, my stalker is L. H and L are engaged and now have been together going on three years.
I first found out about L stalking me 4 months into there relationship because I had a musically at the time. (I know it's cringe but it started out as Vine and I had a Vine account that morphed into Musically. I was famous on the app Vine, no longer use the app). I'd get this notification everyday that User123 (fake account name) checked my profile. Everyday at some point in the day, I'd be notified of this same user. I ignored it at first until I got a hate comment saying user123 did this way better than you did. I was confused so I clicked out of curiosity and it was L. Weird okay. I said nothing until she commented check my bio. So I did and it say I only crept you so me and H could laugh at your videos. I made comedy videos so of course they were suppose to be ridiculous and funny. I responded "I'm glad you enjoy my comedic content. Please there is a follow button and a notification bell, I can see you check my page everyday." She responded with "I wanted to see how you would improve in your videos because I started posting videos" Okay I didn't answer. Give it a couple months and I see someone shared a post of mine on facebook. It was L, going on a facebook rant about how what I was doing was gross and all kinds of other things. So I crept some more and found out she was religiously looking at my social media account and stealing post, quotes and making indirect bashes at me. I ignored it and she again months later came up on my Instagram in an inbox notification. She had decided to model for the same choker company as I did. She also decided to use the same choker I designed and modeled before it was released. My original lace choker was designed to go with my steampunk outfit but they loved the design and kept it as a regular. I wasn't mad because I do get paid for it. Well she directly messaged me and decided to explain herself before I could even see what she was referring too. I got all these messages after my cell phone had reached service because I was in the Army and cell service was crap when I worked out in the field. She pretty much drew attention to herself. I looked and immediately seen what she was talking about. L had modeled my choker same color (comes in black, white, and soft pink). I modeled the original white color with a white lace tank top. I seen she had modeled it in the exact same fashion wear and color. I continued to read her messages because she had sent me five long paragraphs. She told me how my mother in law hated me and called me a bitch on her death bed, she told me how the musically incident was a mistake and how she was in a bad place. How she took losing her mother in-law out on me. Claims she got hacked and deactivated the account (I still have her screenshots). She said as for the chokers she ordered them last October but they were only available for me and weren't set for sale until December, I modeled beginning of November, at this point it was now May. She continued in these paragraphs to explain every incident she remembers us having. She accidentally liked one of my instagram posted (I was in a belly shirt and heels). I noticed the notification but I was 1,000's of miles away in Philadelphia on business for about a month. It was around 6am her time I got this notification. She claims she wanted to make up for the Musically incident and liked a not recent picture (it was months old from a previous photo shoot, I had more recent photos but I only had one belly shirt photo posted at that time) to make it up to me and decided it was a bad idea. She changed her username by the time I'd seen the notification because I was in hair and makeup. She claims it was for a different reason so I had one of my people look into her social media for answers. I've never been great enough to do my own online stalking but my friends could be FBI agents so I sent them to do research while I was working. She had posted a day later a picture in a belly shirt. Anyways her story as to why she changed her username was because she thought she was gonna kill herself before the year 123, and she didn't so it was some kind of new beginning for her. She then said I took the like the wrong way and she was right about it (at this point I've not even read the rest of the five paragraphs so I didn't answer yet). She admitted she was childish and immature, that she was in the wrong, I have a right to see her in bad light, everything I feel towards her is valid and she didn't keep herself in check. Then said if you have any questions please ask away. I replied saying I really hadn't noticed her choker until she pointed it out. That she wasn't a relevant person and she shouldn't worry about any of this, I didn't hold a grudge, rock the choker because it looks fabulous on her. I had no reason to bash her and this was my first real encounter with her aside of the funeral of my ex mother in-law where I shook her hand and said sorry about the families loss. Months went on and now I had my accounts on high alert, private settings across the board and I would occasionally stalk her back to make sure she wasn't bashing me. I got anxiety after her past incidents. I did find a post on her Instagram where she called me manipulative and abuse towards my ex. I can guarantee I wasn't an awful person to this guy but he did always make me insecure because he surrounded himself with tons of females and they all tried to fight me one way or another for him.
