A Fire Within

Homemaker

Why are you complaining because you do not work.
Some women have to work and then go back home to the struggle of taking care of a baby.
You just complain because you forget that you are "lucky" since you can get to sleep while others are working.

Hold up, let me school you.
While other women are working in the job that you consider as a real job, I am here doing a job raising a child. A child you see it as a chore to even burp for two minutes.

While hardworking women who we should feel sorry for are working, I am out here working on a spreadsheet figuring out what we should and should not buy this month for our groceries, as there is just too little money to work with. I am doing that while nursing a child on my breasts. Luckily he is calm. And then do monthly groceries, push a huge trolley with a baby on the carrier. People stare. Now I know why, I have never seen a woman or man doing utility shopping with a baby alone or a toddler.

I am here making sure all laundry is done week in, week out.
Iron the clothes with a baby on my back with a lot of breaks to calm him down.

Oh, the house is very dirty. I need to clean it. Sweep, vacuum, mop and dust. That counts for the mess in the bathroom that I rarely make.

I need to think of what we can eat.
Difficulty is that, I am said to be a bad cook.
Unfortunately it is a daily routine.
The dishes piled from the many dishes used for the few hours last night need someone to clean them. I keep asking that question in my head, will you do the honors? And then laugh it off when I remember you don't touch dishes.

I need to remember to water the grass. It looks like the plea has been falling on dead ears. You have no time for that too.

I have to remind you of things to do, which you normally don't do and get upset for my constant reminder.

To wrap it up. I do everything physical around here. Domestic worker, gardner, handy lady, cook, personal assistant.

It's funny how you make excuses that you are just not the physical type of man. Not physical such that you can't even bend to wipe your urine off the seat/floor?

Yes, I am talking to you typical men.
You know yourselves.
Some women have to tackle a number of children and pets as well.
You need to be considerate of your wives.
You want them happy, assist in the manning of your household instead of assuming we got it under control. Don't ask, Do. Clean up after yourselves. We are not your mothers.
Big ups to the partners who are helpful in their homes.
Your children are not chores, you happily contributed to making them, happily help out in caring for them instead of being passive parents.
Be there, everyday.