Not So Bitter Moments By Bitter Bitches

memory #2

This memory is one from before we met Melanie. When you are born, depending on your sex, you will be expected to act and think a certain way. Now I know what you're thinking. This is the 21st century, females aren't expected to take on those roles anymore. The fact that Donald Trump was elected, and he is known to dehumanise women, should tell you otherwise. It might not be said aloud but that doesn't mean it isn't thought of or even still forced upon women.

As girl's we're expected to take on these roles of being the perfect stereotypical female. Times have indeed changed, situations have gotten better for our sex. But women still aren't treated equally as men. No female should feel shame for their lifestyle as long as they aren't hurting themselves or others around them.

Why are men praised for sleeping with different partners while women are scorned for it? The answer is society. Its how people have been raised and what they have been taught. I'm not perfect, I myself thought like this. That we, as woman should act a certain way. When I realised this, I was appalled at myself. How could I say that I support woman when my mind wasn't in the right place? When I subconsciously shamed them myself. Being aware of yourself is what makes someone powerful.

Anyway, the point of this memory, is to not let other people define you. Take what they say and make it into something of your own. Maybe not in the same way we did (lets be real it wasn't the best way and could've actually backfired really badly) but never be afraid to defend yourself.

At the ages of 14 and 15, Lizzy and I were at school. The school we attended was a small private school, so you can imagine how fast and easy it was for rumours to spread. And this is exactly what happened to Lizzy. Rumours were spread about her. Now I don't really remember what exactly the rumours said, but it was basically about her going around, being a whore and stealing people's boyfriends. Hilarious I know.

As a natural reaction would be, people started to ask questions. Not to Lizzy though. To me. At first, I ignored them. When that didn't work, I shouted at them. Until the point I got annoyed and told them that she was a hoe and I was a hoe as well. This is how the conversation with Lizzy went when I told her we're hoes.

"So, we're hoes"

"what?"

"I basically told people that we're hoes"

"why?"

"They were annoying me"

"So you tell them we're hoes?"

"yeah"

"This makes sense to you?"

"Not really, but they did leave me alone"

"you told people we're hoes"

"yeah but don't worry. We're not whores. we don't steal people's men and ruin homes. We're classy hoes. People have to fit a criteria in order for us to even consider them. We're powerful females that don't require men to function. We're an elite breed. We're iconic. Only those who possess the hoe genes can acquire these attributes. Its our duty to guide and make a way for all the young hoes out there so they are safe and are knowledgeable. This is our higher calling. This is what we were born to be. What we were destined to be. We were born to be hoes."

"you actually told people this and I mean what you just said?"

"Yes and more."

"okay I can get behind this I guess."

"You better its too late now,"

"Hoes we are"

And this is how we spent the rest of high school being called hoes. We ended up embracing the name and it kind of became our brand. By the end of our time there a hoe was just a girl. It had no meaning anymore. We took hold of it and made it into something else. The rumours also turned out to have started from a girl who didn't like Lizzy. Apparently, she found out her boyfriend had a crush on Lizzy and thought she was entertaining him (we didn't even know who he was) so she started the rumours.

During the rest of our high school years we transition from hoes to thots to just bitter bitches. Although we still use all these names as our "brand" (as I get further in this I question our choices) we've developed into our own people and I'm proud to say we have become strong people and established a strong friendship (or thotship as we call it) with each other.