Rape: Both male and female
A rape, according to Wikipedia, is an act by which one person forces another to have sexual relations with her, through violence.
For me, a rape is also a sexual relationship forced by blackmail, physical or psychological violence, manipulation or mental charge.
The mental charge has a very important place in our current society, and is caught up with the notion of feminism. A rape is both masculine (when the victim is a man) and feminine (when the victim is a woman). Rape can be a result of harassment, insults, touching, but also just when you walk on the street. A rape, it can be by a stranger, a relative or a member of the family, anacquaintance. A rape destroys both psychologically and physically.Rape is associated with the notion of non-consent.
Let's talk numbers:
According to the website www.egalite-femmes-hommes.gouv.fr:
Study of 23 November 2016 of the National Institute of Demographic Studies , according to the first results of the investigation into violence and gender relations, a study supported by the Ministry of Women's Rights: - interrogers: people from 20 to 69 years old:
1 year: 52,400 women and 2,700 men victims of at least one rape
Over 1 year: 553,000 women victims of sexual assault other than rape
11%sex touching
95% of touching with breasts, buttocks or forcedkisses
Over one life, 1 in 26 women is raped
Over one life, 1in 7 women are sexually assaulted
Over 1 year, 1 in 20 women aged 20 to 34 is assaulted
Nearly three-fifths of women who are victims of rape or attempted rape occur before their 18th birthday, and before age 15 out of 2 women out of 5
1 / 7th victims of rape in their relationship before the age of 18
3/4 of women who have been raped or attempted by a family member or spouse, anex
5% of women experience at least one sexual abuse from a family member or relative
1.6% are raped or attempted.
Testimonials:
According to
with the #VictimsMoreNever:
(I will only put the first letter of the camouflage first names for privacy reasons, and the comments will be reported to the third person for the same reason.)
First testimony, testimony of C, 49, mother of a victim of attempted rape:
One evening, his 8-year-old daughter launches: "A uncle who rapes a little girl, does daddy go to jail?" C asks her what she means. The girl looks at her and says, "Uncle N raped me."
In shock, C collapses. While her daughters were vaccinated with their father, N slipped into the bed of the little girl, the elder who was then 5 years old. He tried to penetrate her. The girl was very bad and started to bleed. Her father notices that she is bleeding a lot. Parents worry, think she's hurt. The mother,C, lodged a complaint and took her to the gynecologist. The verdict falls, she was not raped, but suffered an attempt. The father does not believe it, how could such a good brother, pious more over, have done that? In front of the police, N confesses and feels relieved . Her family, mean while, denies. They asked C to withdraw the complaint, to settle the matter between them. C refuses. The little one, very close to her father, wants him to believe her and recognizeher as a victim. During the trial, N apologizes to the parents of thegirl, but the mother thinks it is his daughter he must ask forgiveness. The little gets damage and interest, but nothing will fix the pain. 20 years later, the father pretends not to remember.The little girl is waiting to face him, while her mother feels extremely guilty.
This testimony shows that the family can be the best support as well as the worst judge for the victims, which unfortunately happens all too often. The testimony of I, 32, raped at 15 by the ex-companion of his father, shows us that sometimes, the victims are neither beaten, nor locked up but still destroyed. It also shows us that in some cases the victim does not realize right away that she has been raped.
After m.cheekmagazine.fr/societe/temoignage-victime-viol/
M, in her thirties, was sexually assaulted when she was a child. More than a year ago, she filed a complaint against another man for rape. She is now carrying a message of hope to the other victims.
"A little over a year ago, the man who abused me as a child died, it was a kind of release, and a few days later my friend's ex-boyfriend raped me at home, he first got into a girls' night out, got my number back, and when I left the evening, he started to text me saying that he was not well and asking to come to my home. I initially refused, but he called for help and I finally agreed. I did not want him to stay too long because I was working the next day. Once in my living room, he grabbed my wrists. I directly said stop. I did not want anything to happen. For an hour, he continued to try. I was paralyzed. He ended up jumping on me. When he left home, I went upstairs. I washed several times and then went to bed.
I had a blackout for four days. This man continued to send me SMS without referring to the aggression. I did not remember anything, but it hurt everywhere. In the middle of the week, I had a day off. I stayed in bed until noon, which never happens to me. I took a bath and I went back to bed. I was exhausted. In the evening, my friend, who knows my abuser, went unannounced. The memories came back over the evening,then everything came out at once. I told him all night. She said, "It's called rape, you have to file a complaint." She accompanied me to complain. The gendarmes told me, "It's your word against his." From now on, I'm learning to think of myself and say stop. The #MeToo and #BalanceTonPorc moves gave me a boost. Being recognized as a victim in the eyes of people who love us ishard but it is important. Today, I need to show that we can get by,even though I will never be the same again. "
I find this testimony exceptional because it shows that we can help and be help, that we must not be afraid to talk about his experience. Things are finally beginning to change, speech is liberated, and taboos are broken. Even if the complaint has no follow-up, do not hesitate to leave a trace to let people know that there are other people in our case and perhaps to dissuade them from starting again, even with a complaint against X .
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