Becoming a mother is a profoundly life changing experience. There is no such thing as maternal instinct.... find comfort in the fact there is hundreds of books and websites telling moms what to do. It takes great courage to deal with this new thing. With each old part of you given up, a new part of you appears.
Humanizing your mother- "one thing my mother did that I treasure and want to continue doing as a mother with my child is _______________________________."
"What does becoming a mother look like /mean to you? ______________________"
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1) NO BIRTH STORY- Others tell you their stories, and before you know it you have lasting impressions.
2) Relief + Gratitude Story-Thanking others for helping.
3) Relationship Story- Who was there, who wasn't, who helped.
4) Social Birth Story- First Phone call/post.
5) Medical Birth Story- Most valid account. creates emotional distance.
6) Victim + Judge Story- weeks, months, years later dwell on movements you regret. Victim"not fair, not your fault"| Judge "Your fault, could have done ____". *you could remain trapped in this gate for weeks-years
7) New Meaning Story- new perspective (new question + fresh answers & insight)
8) Huntress Story-instead of looking to others look to self. mind opens how words, phases, images. Rearrange narrative of story.
9) Wise Woman's Story- telling story to help others not to gain sympathy, advice, reassurance or phrase.
