Religious

Marriage

As a child who comes from a divorced family, marriage can be something that is extremely intimidating to think about. It seems that the days of two people growing old together is from a past world far far away. Society has made it easy for us just to quit. With the weakening of the concept that marriages are forever, many people get married withholding their full commitment to one another, and therefor see divorce as a viable "all purpose" solution to major problems that are inevitable with any relationship. The notion that if something has problems, or isn't working anymore means that it's time to give up is wrong. Something I got from scripture study is that like a human being, a marriage is a precious living thing. If a person is sick we don't simply just give up trying to heal them. No, in fact, as long as there is still a prospect of life we try again, and again for their betterment. Likewise the same should be applied to a marriage. When I ask myself, what I think is the cause of most divorces, I feel that the answer is many of us have decided it's acceptable to not forgive. Somewhere along the line we have forgotten that everyone needs to be forgiven, and that no one is perfect. Not being able to move on from a wrong doing, and festering on the past is what leads to most divorces, and is what usually keeps us from being happy. Tonight with these things in mind I have made three promise's to myself.

1: I will make sure I marry the right girl, someone who shares my notion that marriages are forever, and doesn't look to run away from problems, but rather works through them.
2: I will forever be a caring and forgiving person, letting go of someones mistakes and looking forward to the future. God knows I have no room to judge.
3: I will strive everyday to improve myself, and to make my significant other happy.

"A good marriage does not require a perfect man or a perfect woman. It only requires a man and a woman committed to strive together toward perfection."
-Dallin H Oaks
"Two individuals approaching the marriage altar must realize that to attain the happy marriage which they hope for they must know that marriage ... means sacrifice, sharing, and even a reduction of some personal liberties. It means long, hard economizing. It means children who bring with them financial burdens, service burdens, care and worry burdens; but also it means the deepest and sweetest emotions of all."
-Spencer W Kimball