Something or Nothing

Replying to 6 comments on red flags in a relationship

Here's my honest opinion, no fluff.

I'm no relationship guru and I'm definitely no stranger to mistakes. I've made poor choices when it comes to guys and, as is the natural order of mistakes, have learned a thing or two. So from purely personal experiences, here's what I think:

Love is not a reason to stay in a relationship. No, sir. The absolute worse thing you could do to yourself is to stay in an unhealthy relationship because "you love them so much". Like, back up! Ever seen love stop someone from cheating? Or making grave mistakes? Or going back to their ex? Or lying?

It's not enough to have " history together." After all, having history together doesn't mean ya'll have a future together.

It's obvious that disrespect, name calling, gaslighting & beating are all red flags but, people have shared six controversial comments on the topic.  And, this is me replying to said comments.

Let's begin!

COMMENT ONE:  "When they say 'I love you' not even two weeks into the relationship."

Yup. I hate this with everything in me. You don't know me from Adam and Eve, what you mean you love me? The way people through 'i love you' out there is just disgusting. 

And, I'm just gonna go ahead and address the most important thing here:

Why would you be in a relationship with someone you didn't already love?

COMMENT TWO: " If they cheated on their last partner with you."

Well, that's a given.

It's happened to me. It's happened to my friends.

Forget all that "you're different" and "I could never hurt you like that" crap. The problem with statements like that is that it's exactly what you want to hear. There is literally nothing stopping them from doing it to you too. If it happened before, there's a fat chance it'll happen again.

COMMENT THREE: "When they refuse to make your relationship public."

I definitely relate.

Some people simply don't like broadcasting their personal life on social media for different reasons, but that's different from flat out hiding your relationship or getting upset that someone posted ya'll- which is as glaring red as a flag can get!

COMMENT FOUR: "When they have a good relationship with their ex."

Not saying this happens all the time but, in most cases, good friendship with an ex is something to pay attention to. It's very, very easy for them to hook up again given that it happened once already.

People love to say its a sign of maturity to be friends with your ex, but here's an unpopular opinion: Unless there are kids involved, its usually just an indicator of who you'll eventually catch them flinger-linger-dingering with.

COMMENT FIVE: " When your friends don't like them."

Man. This has got to be the realest, most relatable comment I've ever heard. Speaking from personal experience, friends have strong anti-dick sensors and when their sensors are telling you that this person is BAD for you, he most likely really is.

COMMENT SIX: "When they constantly ask you for money."

There are these particular set of partners who come into our lives to drain the living daylight out of us. If they're not asking for money, they're asking for airtime. And surprise surprise, not once have they sent you airtime or given you money. 

Worse, most of them are completely cool with it.

Albeit, it's perfectly normal for your partner to be in need sometimes and in most occasions, you help them financially because you want to. But if they constantly ask for it? Nah. That's not a relationship. That's a situationship.

They gotta go, goodbye.

Comment what you think is a red flag in a relationship.