THE RELATIONIST ( The 7 Secret Principles Of Having A Beautiful Relationships)

CHAPTER FOUR : MARRIAGE AND RELATIONSHIP

1. WHY DO SO MANY MARRIAGES FAIL?

In this contemporary society many marriages has become a thing of "in and out". Today someone is married, tomorrow he or she is not married. What is all this? and this have become a lifestyle for so many people, but in this book, we will give you clear reasons why so many marriages fail, so that you will avoid it in your own marital life.

The reasons why so many marriages fail is as follows below.....

I. Listening to rumors about your partner.

II. A man does not want a second mother.

III.So many marital homes base their marriage on the titles, husband and wife.

IV. Failing to show your partner your real character but by pretending on another character.

V. Lack of understanding.

However the above, I just listed are the main crucial reason why so many marriages fail and I will go further to explain them so that you can understand.

i. LISTENING TO RUMORS ABOUT YOUR PARTNER: This is the major killer in marriages, listen if you want your marriage to end within the next few weeks, listen to what people who gossip or busy body's talk about your partner. It is a known fact that so many marital couples do not actually know which kind of people they should make as friends with and which people they should not make friends with and also which kind of people they should seek or take advice from. They was a study done on so many marriages and it shows that most marital couple, go to seek advice from single people or their single friends who are not or was married before and my question is, what do you think a single person will advice you about marriage?.

It is very funny, okay for example, if you are a smoker and you want to quit smoking, who will you go to seek for advice in other to quit smoking, the fact is; it will be very wrong to go and meet someone that is addicted to smoking to teach you how to quit smoking. The fact is the addict will tell you smoking is good and he will advice you not to stop it and he can still go further to give you reason why you should not stop it; and the both of you will end up killing yourselves.

It is very bad for a married woman or man to seek advice from someone who have no idea about marriage except the person is a professional in marriage counseling but do not trust those counselors, some are fakes, and also if you want your marriage to last, do not listen to what people.

Tell you about your wife or husband, talks like "Hey hello, I saw a girl in your husband car and I do not know if it was you or Hey I saw your wife hugging a guy at a supermarket or grocery shop" e.t.c.

If someone eventually come by your house trying to tell you something about your husband or wife, listen to the person, thank the person and ask the person to leave your house, the only time you have to judge your partner whether he or she is wrong is when you saw them in the act or have a valid prove and not what someone else told you. Do not believe everything an outsider tells you about your own home or family or wife or husband or even children, some news are false and some people love destroying people marriages.

ii. A MAN DOES NOT WANT A SECOND MOTHER:

Why I use this phrase is because mothers indirectly are authoritative, telling their children what to do and not to do at a certain age.

When a man get married, his main aim of marrying you is for you to act as an assistant to him not as a competitor or judge over him, you need to understand that there are two kind of persons a man respect,

-First a man will respect the person who is above him and

-Secondly a man will respect the person who is below him or under him.