Love Never Fails BUT We Fail In Love

Chapter 05 || Trust

Trust is a five-letter word that begins and ends with the letter "T." And we can value the letter T for 'tough' and 'twist'; trust is tough to earn and even more difficult to maintain after it has been earned. It's twisted because it can easily shatter at any time, in a matter of seconds. As a result, we might conclude that "trust" is not as easy as its spell, and even its mysterious 'T' makes it tough and twisty.

You must gain trust via your conduct; it will not come to you automatically. It may take time to construct, but it may be destroyed in a matter of seconds. American tennis player Arthur Ashe once said about trust: "Trust has to be earned and should come only after the passage of time." Yes, he said it perfectly: you can't expect to have trust in a first encounter or first date, and if it does, it wasn't trust. It could have merely been a worry or concern.

We are, after all, human beings who are bound to society. We can't survive on our own, and if we try, we'll fail miserably. "No bro, I'm alone," some of you would say. Alternatively, you may say, "No one loves me." But, in reality, you are not alone, and you do have someone in your life, who cares for you. He may be your driver, a friend, a shopkeeper, a family member, or your GF/BF. You certainly connect with them on a 24-hour basis in your daily life. This implies that you are a member of society and are not alone.

My partner-in-crime _whatanewworld_ said about trust as "Ummm... tbh I don't know how to define trust, because there are different types of trust... but I'll talk about my love. Trusting him means being able to tell anything without worrying that I'll be judged by him. It means telling him my thoughts and expressing my feelings without any worry. It means being with him and supporting him even when we are so far from each other, because trusting in LDR is not easy. Also, when you trust someone, it means giving them the power to hurt you, as trust breaking from the person you love hurts too much." She expressed trust beautifully in her own words.

Assume you've entered a new circle. You'll meet a lot of new people or make some new pals there. But now pay attention to the members of that circle. They'll greet you with regular greetings at first, but you will develop a strong friendship with them afterwards. Why so? Why weren't they chill in the first meeting, or why weren't you became a close friend lists in the first meet? The answer is simple: the five-letter word "TRUST." Your brain was undecided on whether or not to make an easy entry into their lives on the first day. The same thing had happened to them, but over time, as you played, walked, and chatted, both of your minds began to trust one another. You may have been quiet and an introvert among your peers, but after a while, you became so close to some of them that you kept fantastic fun memories of them with you for the rest of your life. Because trust takes time, it depends on how deep you want to go with the role.

One of my friend estelle._z once said regarding trust as "I think trust means believing someone to the extent where you don't have to even over think any word you utter. It means that you totally believe that person to express yourself. Also it doesn't mean they'll let you do wrong things, it means that you will free open enough to really speak out your heart cause deep down you know they'll tell you what's right for you. Trust is the basis for all relationships." She said it awesomely.

In his edited research on the "Psychology of Trust," David Geffen emphasized that trust is a state of mind in which we sacrifice all means by putting them in jeopardy. But we do so cheerfully because their activities provide us with assurance, signaling to our brain that they are trustworthy. In terms of psychology, trust is made up of the following phases in the brain:

Integrity, sincerity, reliability, consistency, commitment, and competence. All of the steps must be digested by our brain before we can trust anyone around us. In all circumstances, whether it's with family, friends, or lovers, the brain discreetly examines their activities using the aforementioned phases. And if your brain gives you a green signal, you're ready to put your trust in that person.