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So I had always been into fashion and aesthetics, specifically vintage inspired aesthetics. So I had heard of this Lolita based community but never really looked into it cause one, I was like 10 when the nymphet community was super popular and then the community died and now that I am finally older (15) it has rebirthed itself onto TikTok.
Because I am a hyper feminine black girl everytime I say I enjoy things like this. I am used to the "she's white washed" or "you act like a white girl" comment. And I honestly don't give a fuck anymore because I like girly shit. And I won't be ashamed to anymore. So the fact that this is a community based off reclaiming girlhood is something I love and relate to.
Speaking of things I relate to is the whole "liking older men" thing. Which has always been a thing of mine. I realized from a young age that the man I wanted to date or even marry I would not find in a bunch of horomone filled teenage boys. And I have had 2 major teacher crushes because of this. (Not that that's a requirement or anything) But I've always been ashamed of that as well because of things like Lolita and real life events that prove an attraction like this to be dangerous. But it doesn't really matter to me since I don't plan on dating until I'm 18 anyway.
So you could imagine with missing out on the best of the nymphet community. Combined with an interest in older men and vintage fashion and feminine aesthetics how I went down the rabbit hole that is coquette. I honestly don't know what it is. Something about the aesthetic is comforting and gives me nostalgia although it resembles nothing of my African American early 2000s girly childhood. And makes me so happy. The main thing I love is that it is not just an aesthetic and it is not about materialism (although I am very materialistic) but it is a lifestyle a way of being.
I've always strived to have this hyper feminine confident flirty aura about myself. So naturally the idea of Lolita the idea of Dolores I really love.
