The Greatest Storyteller

In The Beginning Was The Word

Our inner critic is formed in childhood from the environment we grew up in. The way people spoke to and about us became the way we started to speak to ourselves. when you grow up in an environment where you're constantly judged, criticized, made fun of, and compared to other people you develop this false belief that who you're isn't worthy of love. And this will be the loop that plays in your head. Self-hatred is taught, self-doubt is taught, comparing yourself to others is taught, and judging ourselves is taught. As children we didn't care how we looked, we didn't have limiting beliefs we believed we could do anything. It's not until someone tells you that you're not good enough to be a musician that you start to doubt yourself.

Until you're teased about the way you look or act, you dont look at yourself as if something is wrong with you. And as a young child it's hard stand up for yourself. Even when you try the adults silence your voice by telling you to learn how to take a joke, you're being to sensitive, or not letting you express yourself. Over time this teaches you not to stand up for yourself and you start to believe what you have to say doesn't matter. Now you grow into someone that has a hard time expressing yourself as well as being overly self conscious. To make matters worse the ones who judged you and never allowed you to express yourself now criticize you for being "socially anxious", Not realizing this is what they created. Do you see how the judgements and opinions of others shaped the way you think and feel about yourself?

Do you see that who you think you're is only a collection of memories? Can you see that thoughts are only recycled loops of your experiences we label as "me". It's just a story you tell yourself repeatedly. The loops are experiences and the opinions of the people in the environment you were raised in. So what type of loops do you think will play if you experienced a lot judgement, teasing, gaslighting and verbal abuse etc...? Thoughts were you now bully and tease yourself. Thoughts were you seek the validation of others. Thoughts were you're afraid to make mistakes, and chase perfection. Indecisive thoughts. Thoughts were you compare yourself to others. Self sabotaging thoughts were you don't believe you're lovable or even worthy of love. These kinds of loops are self absorbed, judgmental unloving Basically the inner voice is the bully and victim simultaneously.

And If when you were younger you weren't allowed to stand up for yourself or express how you feel it taught you to be okay with being bullied even by your own inner voice. So when this inner critic is being overly critical, rude, etc... you don't stand up for yourself, you just sit there and take it. You don't believe your worth fighting for, you believe everything it says. You have to stand up to that inner bully, question it's judgements, do what it says you can't do, thank it for trying to help and dismiss it kindly. Because it believes its helping or protecting you. These are some ways you can start quieting the inner critic. Be mindful you must speak to the inner bully with compassion, patience and forgiveness. This is what you needed when you were young not criticism, teasing etc... Speak to yourself the way you wish your parent, or caregivers spoke to you. Your words have way more power than you can imagine, the deeper you go into this book the clearer it will become. Its time to take your power.