De Spotlight(pretentious)2
Who figured my pretentiousness?
My family found out first and few of my mates.
When it was being spill at my face that I was pompous and a nobody I couldn't take it I felt hurt and they were all wrong. I kept thinking my mates were jealous of me cause of my personality or whatever you might name it. In reality I had a lot of enemies who were really envious of me apart from my pretentiousness,I achieved things based on my ability. The bigger problem I had was that,I was boastful of my personality thereby I needed to achieve more things to maintain my radar. I didn't want to look like a failure in front of my family so I uphold the stand were I've placed myself. I can't back off even when I wanted to but I couldn't the only solution was to continue with my fake identity I created. Receiving unmerited praises from my family and mates of something that was made up off lies. I loved the praises and attention I got from them. It felt like one of my fantasy dream had come to fulfillment.
At that period what more could I ask for.
Did your pretense about your self achievement lasted?
No, it didn't. In the side of my academic career I was caught by my dad.
Why did you say academic career?
From my point of view,I see academic career as a period of time I spent in my life studying. Although am not done studying. As a high school student my principal will always say, your study is your business. Its the most important business you have now therefore you're meant to dedicate your all to it in other to stand firm. Satisfied right? ( ) let me continue.
My dad was fed up on all the stories I told him and one day he decided to visit the school in other to meet the principal or bursar of the school. I was unaware that he will becoming to my school the next day. The following day I was in school when he came walking into the bursar's office and I was busy parading the school compound and saw him conversing with the bursar,I felt anxiety, the world revolving around me. I was scared,disappointed,loss,I don't know what do. I wanted the ground to open and swallow me. If I had the power of sending myself to the abssy I would do that without thinking twice. I rushed to my classroom and my best friend saw my state and was confused. She asked if all was well and I couldn't nod nor answer
I looked up and let her see the tears streaming down my face. She stared at me confused and asked again with a slight worry lacing her voice. Are you okay?did anything bad happen to you? Did you commit crime or offend anyone? This time around,I decide to answer her, I told her that my dad was in school,that him came to inquire something. Also, I informed her on how I lied about the textbooks and workbooks price she was marvelled that I could do such a thing . she had no choice than to comfort me and told me that all is going to be well. In my mind, I was already devising a plan on how am going to manipulate everything before I go home. I've been panicking for like two hours non stop. My heart has been beating like super bass drum,therefore I must meet our school supervisor and the school bursar to confirm from them what they converse with my dad. After meeting them and hearing from them my next plan was to devise another plan on what am going to say when I reach home. You know everyday is for the thief but one day is for the owner. My way of manipulating lie did not work this time around. It back fired on me. Although,I was punished but I was ashamed of myself and could not bear to discuss or look at them. I was in pain,guilt and what you may name it. This particular incident didn't stop me from being pretentious. I continued but in a different way. I had to follow the pattern I had laid out,in some cases it did come in handy and it made me realize that if I keep promoting myself in my educational career I would go down without achieving anything. I had to minimize some certain unspeakable things I do and learnt some lesson too.
Living a pretentious life is very stressful,costly,mentally drainable,hamster_wheel,
blocks uplift meant and no peace of mind . In some cases, being pretentious is the only solution or option you have. From my own perspective pretentiousness favor most people. When you are being pretentious,you're meant to have a reason for being such. You shouldn't being such cause you want to be. It has it own pros and cons and the aftermath is not something you will like to experience
Because your life would never be the same. Either you attach to it cause you like the uncommon favour your
getting or you regret of ever taking up such as a decision in the first place. It has its own spirit just like how porn has its own spirit. They are traps that we don't understand the formats. They are usually
the options we choose cause the look like the are the best but the end is usually ugly.
Do you know any steps or ways of reprimanding pretentious people and putting them in their place?
Yes ,but,I don't think they might work for everybody.
* The global general way_ignore their behaviour
*Maintaining in difference
*Defend,support and stand for your opinions
*Do not act like you're impressed
*Confront the behaviour. Let them know that the attitude they portray is bad .
*state clearly and firmly that your authority is true
*Never stop questioning Why
*My best way it by informing them that you're aware of their behaviour but you're just ignoring them. I know it might synchronize with bullet point one.
Did you handle yourself when you realize your mistakes?
Yes,I did but it wasn't easy to follow. I created my own
Flow chart cause I needed to disciplined myself. I needed to be hard on myself in other for me to correct or learn my lessons. In life, if you set rules you can break them easily however ,thinking that they don't have penalties.
Oh,if you research on how to handle pretentious intellectuals,you will get to understand that pretentious or pretentiousness isn't just a word it has a deeper meaning in life.
Can we fight pretentiousness in our society
today? Is it a controversy issue?
