A new life (the sequal)

Chapter 7

"Doc, what do you think of people with rejection issues?"...asked, Jane

"Rejection issues? Huh, rejection issues they probably had so many rules to follow at home. They probably got embarrassed at home. An example: say that when the kid wanted to go to a party, and their friends said I'll pick you up at your house, and your parents yelled out the curfew and what time your bedtime is. But most rejection usually comes from girls and women. Men or boys don't like being rejected, to them it makes them feel hurt, insecure."...said, the Doctor

"If a guy got rejected so many times as a kid, and they grew up still getting rejected. Would they express that said anger or bottle it up and wait for the right moment to arrive?"...asked, Jane

"Men and women have different methods of getting mad when they get rejected. The woman typically yells or lashes out when they get rejected. Men would bottle up their emotions, and they would wait for the right time to get back at that person who rejected them."...said, the Doctor

"Do you think that their anger towards that person could be sexual?"...asked, Jane

"Could be yes. It also could be, before the rejection. That they always wanted to have sex with you. But you never noticed him or her like the way they noticed you."...said, the Doctor

"Do you think men also get mad when you said 'let them think about it?'...said, Jane

"I wouldn't say mad per se. I think they get frustrated because they typically have to wait for a response, and sometimes the answers are usually no. Can I ask what is with all the questions?"...asked, the Doctor

"Umm...I wasn't going to mention his name, but since we are talking about it I might as well. It's Perry, he has a morbid history of rejection. He first met me at the job I was interviewing for. I got the job because I needed it. I didn't care that most of the men batted for the other team, I cared because I wanted them to be my friends. Well, the boss asked Perry to show me the lay of the land. After a few days, Perry became friendly. He started to put his hands on my shoulders, and on my face, and he started to rub my arms. Keep in mind that Perry is the only straight one there."...said, Jane

"Did you care enough to tell him no? Typically, women usually give off certain vibes...so that they can get favors."...said, the Doctor

"Favors? I didn't take favors or bribes. I worked for what I got. That is how I was raised. My mother always said 'If you have to get favors for being a woman then you didn't work for it.' "...said, Jane

"So you want to earn the things you work for. I get it. Being a therapist is challenging too."...said, the Doctor

"One day out of the blue Perry brought me lunch. And my work. It's like I had an errand boy, even though I didn't ask for it. I know I should be happy that he brought me lunch and my work. But I start to notice that something was off, about Perry. He started to bring me lunch and my to me every day. And when I am hurting in my shoulders he would come over to massage my shoulders. This is what's weird, that when he massages my shoulders I would feel his THING in my back...it's like he was getting turned on."...said, Jane

"So he got a boner? From massaging your back? I understand that he has feelings for you. But at the time did you have feelings for him?"...asked, the Doctor

"I never had feelings for him. But he's cute. But he seemingly took that out of context. He mistook it for something else. I meant cute as a friend, not as in I want to go out with you."...said, Jane

"Jane, you mentioned calling him cute. But did you ever tell him it as friends? Intentionally, calling someone cute preferably a guy you would have to break it down for him. You would have to tell him that you meant it in a friendly way."...said, the Doctor

"That'll explain why he got clingy."...said, Jane

"What happened next?"

"He came up to me one day with a bouquet. And he asked me out on a date. I tried to be nice about it. I didn't want to come off rude. But we were in the office and he came up to me and everybody was watching. So I didn't want to embarrass him so I pulled him aside and I told him no."...said, Jane

"So is that when you noticed that he has problems with being rejected?"...asked the Doctor

"No, someone from the office told me that he has a history of rejection. I have a rule, when or where I work. I don't date anybody from my work, I made that very clear to Perry...and my boss."...said, Jane

"Your boss? Did he hit on you too?"...asked, the Doctor

"No, he didn't. He told me when I first got there that if I date anyone from the office I would have to sign a confidentiality paper and a non-compete if anything ever happened."...said, Jane

"You might now know this, you could have started this whole thing and not even know it. Look, you walked into your new job probably thinking that everything was gonna go smoothly, and it didn't. But what you didn't take into the concept that Perry had deep R-rated feelings for you, and brushed him off by calling him cute in a friendly way. You told him no. Which triggered his anger, and frustration. Typically men, like when women take control, it means it makes them hard to get. How many times have you told Perry no? And how many times did Perry run off angry and confused because you said no?"...asked, the Doctor

"I told him no, like 5-10 times. And in that amount of time, he'll kick the trash can and run off angry. And he would mumble under his breath."...said, Jane