All The Things I've Never Said Before - Part 8

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The problem is we mistakes this idea of love for attachment, you know the one I'm talking about. We imagine the grasping and clinging that we feel for in our relationships. It shows that we love when it actually just causes us pain you know, because the more we grasp and hold on the more we are afraid to lose then if we don't lose so of course we are the ones who end up suffering. I mean take a moment and think about this. Genuine love is attachment and attachment tells us that's love which therefore tells us to want something and if that something includes me then great! Wonderful even, but just keep in mind that if it doesn't include me then I just want you to be happy regardless of the scenario. And by me saying this it's telling me that it's a different feeling, one that if I hold on tightly enough the more people are going to suffer. You see some people have a very hard time understanding this and I think that's because they believe if they hold onto it the more it shows that they care about it. But you have to remember that's not true, it only proves that they are only grasping onto it because they are afraid they will let themselves be hurt. Any relationship with the imagination to be fulfilled for ourselves or through another is bound to get very tricky. We as people already come together feeling fulfilled and that helps us appreciate that in other people, so instead of expecting other people to supply this sense of well-being which they probably don't feel on their own will end up causing lots of problems. And with that comes the projection of romance, where we come up with this idea and desire in our heads which includes fantasies that cannot possibly feel fulfilled once you get to know and understand the other. You come to this realization that this person isn't actually Prince Charming or Cinderella. It just happens to be another person who's struggling along the way, so unless you can see them for them then this desire to feel and to have is going to make this relationship exponentially difficult and very complicated