All The Things I've Never Said Before - Part 8

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The problem is we mistake this idea of love for attachment you know the one I'm talking about. We imagine the grasping and clinging that we feel for in our relationships. It shows that we love when it actually, just causes pain you know, because the more we grasp and hold on the more we are afraid to lose then if we don't lose so then, of course we suffer.  I mean think about it genuine love is attachment and attachment tells us love which therefore means to want something and if that something includes me then great! Wonderful even, but it doesn't include me then I just want you to be happy regardless of the scenario. So this tells me that it's a different feeling one that if I hold on tightly enough the more we as people will suffer. You see some people have a very hard time understanding this and I think that's because they believe if they hold onto it the more it shows that they care about someone. And that's not true, it only proves that they are only grasping onto it because they are afraid they will let themselves be hurt. Any relationship with the imagination to be fulfilled within ourselves or through another is bound to be very tricky. I mean think about it, we as people come together already feeling fulfilled and that helps us appreciate that in other people so instead of expecting other people to supply this sense of well-being which they probably don't feel on their own causes lots of problems. And with that comes with the projection of romance where we come up with this idea and desire such as romance fantasies which cannot possibly feel fulfilled once you get to know and understand the other. You come to realize that this person really isn't Prince Charming or Cinderella, it's just another person who is also struggling along the way. So unless you can see them as is then this desire to feel and to have then this kindness and this compassion isn't going to be easy, it's actually going to make it a very difficult and a complicated relationship